Numb = normal?
Find a Conversation
| Mon, 03-31-2008 - 6:17pm |
Hi everyone.
My boyfriend of 10 months broke up with me on the weekend and after about 24 hours of nonstop tears I've gone numb. Is this normal? I'm not complaining (believe me, this deadness inside is more pleasant than the endless weeping), but I'm wondering if this is a calm before a horrible, awful storm that's just over the horizon. Or am I really Superwoman like I always believed? (kidding! :-P)
This breakup was a while coming. The past couple of months were miserable for both of us but I had hope - maybe still do - but he feels he needs to be alone and work through some things, which I have to say I agree with. I'm trying to view this as a cut-and-dry breakup because I don't think I can deal with ambiguity and basically waiting for him to decide he's had enough time (if that ever even happens). After reading through a few posts here on the board I'm determined to cut off contact and let his calls go to voicemail, so that's a step in the right direction.
It's the giving up on the hope that I've clung to for months - and much of that time hope was all I felt I had to cling to - that I'm finding especially difficult.
...and I'm sounding a lot more coherent than I'm feeling.
Thanks for any advice! :-)

((((litgirl)))) Thank you for your support - I'm really happy to hear that NC works because it's really hard - although you already know that, I'm sure. :-) That's brutal that your fiance broke up with you over email, yikes!! It sounds like you're doing really well though, which is AWESOME! :-D
I sound coherent in writing, but I haven't been able to actually speak the words "-- broke up with me" without breaking down. Someday. :-)
Hello
so sorry to hear of your pain also. you are in the same situation as me (mine was 22 yrs) and i am going to really try hard for nc - it must be better than what I have been doing.
Perhaps we can support each other - email me instead if you feel the need to contact him.
Best wishes x
I'm *really* glad to hear that the first 24 hours is the worst! I work with children and I was concerned that something would remind me of him and I'd be down for the count within seconds. So far so good (at work, anyhow - no comment on being at home).
Thanks so much for your support (((imwideawake)))! It means a lot. :)
(((hels))) - sweetheart, I would guess that my pain is nothing compared to yours, just like 10 months is nothing compared to 22 years. I can't imagine what you're going through right now. ((HUG))
I'm up for supporting each other and emailing you when I feel the urge to contact him. You do the same!! We'll get through this. :)