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| Mon, 03-31-2008 - 7:39pm |
So I have recently posted my breakup a couple of weeks ago, and I have tried my hardest in the no contact rule!!
To my surprise, I am getting more and more calls from him! Texts galore and unfortunatly I am too busy to answer :) ..
Here is the kicker!
So he knows I am hurting really bad for money.Since I had to move back 3000 miles away from him, and completly start over out of the clear blue, and as we know in todays market times are tough and not every place is hiring.
So I have a great job offer, which I will be starting in almost 2 weeks but hello!!? Tomm is the first and my bills are due..
So to my dismay, I was informed he is planning a few day escapade to a tropical locale to "escape" so to speak!?
Now I cannot reveal this information nor the messenger so I cant call him out on it. But why is he textn me hes holding back tears one minute then planning a trip with his homies to Mexico for a couple of days? knowing Im hurting and financially strapped b/c of him.. do I call him out? what do I do? I have not nor will I ask for $ Im too proud of a woman but I cant believe hes throwing money around. So I found this out hours ago, and just minutes ago got a somber messg saying he hopes I call him back and he just wants to hear my voice..
Anyone please show me the light part of me wants to call back and be like nothing to see if he tells me or not call at all. I moved 3000 miles back home here, and if he really loved, missed, or even wanted to see or be with me wouldnt he come here? make sense of this for me! do I have a bi polar man on my hands? or a first class player tying to keep me wanting him? I dont know what Id do without all your help!!!
To my surprise, I am getting more and more calls from him! Texts galore and unfortunatly I am too busy to answer :) ..
Here is the kicker!
So he knows I am hurting really bad for money.Since I had to move back 3000 miles away from him, and completly start over out of the clear blue, and as we know in todays market times are tough and not every place is hiring.
So I have a great job offer, which I will be starting in almost 2 weeks but hello!!? Tomm is the first and my bills are due..
So to my dismay, I was informed he is planning a few day escapade to a tropical locale to "escape" so to speak!?
Now I cannot reveal this information nor the messenger so I cant call him out on it. But why is he textn me hes holding back tears one minute then planning a trip with his homies to Mexico for a couple of days? knowing Im hurting and financially strapped b/c of him.. do I call him out? what do I do? I have not nor will I ask for $ Im too proud of a woman but I cant believe hes throwing money around. So I found this out hours ago, and just minutes ago got a somber messg saying he hopes I call him back and he just wants to hear my voice..
Anyone please show me the light part of me wants to call back and be like nothing to see if he tells me or not call at all. I moved 3000 miles back home here, and if he really loved, missed, or even wanted to see or be with me wouldnt he come here? make sense of this for me! do I have a bi polar man on my hands? or a first class player tying to keep me wanting him? I dont know what Id do without all your help!!!

*STRENGTH BY THE BUCKETS*
Even tho I still technically live with my ex, I rarely see him. He calls all the time and texts all the time. He wanted me to come home earlier this weekend from my trip to hang out with him, but I didn't. I don't ever call him or text him unless I have to (living together thing). And I have been doing this for the past couple of weeks, and I feel stronger and more healed already!!!
Keep up the great work and do for yourself. Personally, I'd rather have "nothing" in possessions and "everything" in self-esteem!
Good luck & stay your strong self!
Its funny you mentioned your belongings! I left behind a few things. Including a necklace that he found the day after I left which I would have liked to keep or in my case pawn!! he has had it for two weeks! when he found it he said he would send it so i could have it. Do u think its come? nope.. Im getting to the point of really hating men. Is that AWFUL or what? How do I overcome all his negativity towards them? I have never been with one that hasnt hurt me in such ways. This one takes the cake for hes trying to be the sweet and caring x with words and no action.. which he lacked when we were together the last year of our relationship! ugh!! I heart Ivillage posts and all the wonderful people in it!! :)
Welcome to the board sunpleaseshineonme,
Some people during a break up, plan lots of things as distractions because they just can't cope being at home, or being alone, or dwelling on their thoughts.
He's entitled to have a 'weak' moment just like the rest of us which will be the tears, calling, texting and just wanting to hear your voice.
Be strong, you can do this!!!
As far as being upset with men, well just know they don't all behave this way. Maybe he's holding out on the necklace in hopes that you will contact him because you want it so badly.