Jaded...

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Registered: 11-19-2007
Jaded...
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Sat, 04-12-2008 - 3:50pm

Alright, last night found out that my ex is dating this guy she met about a year before we broke up...they became close friends and looking back

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Registered: 03-24-2006
In reply to: rossjack
Sat, 04-12-2008 - 4:29pm

<,for someone to tell me shes out there somewhere>>


She's out there somewhere.


I can totally relate to the feeling that the person you loved never really existed, and it's awesome that you realize this. My posts are floating around, but my boyfriend, who I was so sure that he was the one, just turned on me one day, and was so unsupportive and uncaring, it was like a switch. Sure, I loved the person he WAS, but there's one deal breaker for me; Support, and giving your every last fight together before letting it go; and he didn't have this quality, he had the opportunity to demonstrate it, facing his fears with me holding his hand, but he chose to give up on the one person who would never give up on him.


And now, its up to me, to not give up on myself, or the thought of me being happy again someday. I often think "This was the one.... now its ruined"... but that's not the case. You were with someone who care more about herself and her being happy that she'd do whatever it took to make herself happy, while ignoring what's right.


You'll get over this, I know everyone tells you, but you will. I will. And I know you'll be posting here one day saying "I finally found happiness!" And I'll be one of the first ones to say "I told you so!" :P


Take care!


Katie

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Registered: 01-24-2008
In reply to: rossjack
Sun, 04-13-2008 - 2:32pm

Awww.....I feel the same way, but when I read that someone else feels this way, it makes me feel bad. I don't like feeling that way, but I have lost hope in people (men) as well. It just seems that now-a-days, everything immoral is becoming okay. Television glamorizes everything immoral. I think people are becoming de-sensitized by seeing so much of it on television - reality shows, the news, etc...I personally hear so many stories - and read them here as well - about people cheating on their spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends, fiances, that it just seems to be more the rule than the exception anymore. It just seems that people are losing sight of things that used to be important, such as good character, integrity, honesty, fidelity, loyalty, etc....Since these are things that I want in a mate, I feel that my expectations are too high, and that I am going to have to settle for less than that, because I'm afraid that there are no people like this left. Sorry that I don't have a more positive reply for you. I guess there may still be good people out there, but very few, and hard to find. Even harder to get a handle on who the bad ones are before they break your heart.

ducky