Miss him or simply being in love?
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| Sun, 04-13-2008 - 10:08pm |
I know that women in my situation for thousands of years past and a thousand years hence will swear that "It's not that I miss the feeling of being in love, but I miss him." I'm neither naïve nor arrogant enough to claim that I'm different, but you know, I really do feel as if I miss him more than I miss being in love. I talked to this man day after day for five years, so I'm certain that there are aspects of this breakup that mimic those of addictions. I get that. But at the very same time, I don't have anyone in my life with whom I can talk about certain things (professional and personal interests, hobbies). I miss the way he understood me, on a level that friends, even ones I've known as long or longer, just don't. I miss his intelligence, his quick wit, that sparkle he got in his eye when he told you about something he was passionate about. Sure, I also miss cuddling and having someone to be with on weekends, but what I really miss are the substantial things. The things we had in common that I can't find anywhere else.
Many of you already know my story: it wasn't a case of deal-breakers, but a case of boredom, feeling stifled, losing the love to the mundane things of life. It's been a little over two months now, and the sharp pains have faded to a dull ache for what we had.
So really, the point of this whole post is simply to ask: do you think I really just miss being in love? Please, knock me back into reality if that's the case--because heaven knows, it would be a lot easier to deal with than the thought that he did offer me something that might be difficult (albeit not impossible) to find somewhere else. Oh, and thanks for just letting me vent, as always. It's nice to be able to write out, "I miss him" and know that someone read it, even if it's not him.
uncommononsense
I can't go back to yesterday--because I was a different person then. --L. Carroll

Oh, I forgot: I came across this image this week and thought it might be as moving to some of you on this board as it was for me:
uncommononsense
I can't go back to yesterday--because I was a different person then. --L. Carroll
First of all, I love that quote. I wrote it down in my planner so I can look at it every day.
Second, I think you can miss the actual person and miss being in love at the same time. I think I