I have some experience with dealing with relationships and infidelity. Not everyone that cheats once will always cheat. You have to look at their reasons for cheating. If it's been a serial problem in the past, though, it's likely to continue UNLESS the cheater gets serious therapy to help in identifying why s/he behaves the way s/he does. I would never get reinvolved with a cheater unless he had proven he had seriously worked on his issues with the assistance of a professional.
If he's not sought professional help to figure out why he cheated, what motivates him, what he does to justify his behavior, than once a cheater, always a cheater would probably apply to him.
" Once a cheater, always a cheater ", not true if it happens only once. Same is true for " once a liar , always a liar".
Some people will realize after they have lost about what they have lost and try to make it work again.But it is during this second time , you have to watch for the second lie or sign of cheating because if he lies again , he will lose all your trust which you still do.And you too will never trust him again.
But i will be very cautious in developing my R with him again.And , will keep my eyes wide open and all ears as well :) You still love him thats why you might be ignoring the real reasons now just because he is back even though as friends.Be cautious.
Is he still with the old girlfriend or seeing anyone else?
::He used to always preach that despite his infidelities, he's a decent man.
Sorry, I don't know his definition of 'decent' but cheating doesn't come to mind.
Read this book:
Do Not Touch, Talk to, Marry or Otherwise Fiddle with Frogs, by Nailah Shami
If he's not sought professional help to figure out why he cheated, what motivates him, what he does to justify his behavior, than once a cheater, always a cheater would probably apply to him.
" Once a cheater, always a cheater ", not true if it happens only once. Same is true for " once a liar , always a liar".
Some people will realize after they have lost about what they have lost and try to make it work again.But it is during this second time , you have to watch for the second lie or sign of cheating because if he lies again , he will lose all your trust which you still do.And you too will never trust him again.
But i will be very cautious in developing my R with him again.And , will keep my eyes wide open and all ears as well :)
You still love him thats why you might be ignoring the real reasons now just because he is back even though as friends.Be cautious.