I think it's starting agian

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Registered: 03-24-2006
I think it's starting agian
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Mon, 04-14-2008 - 6:50am
Hello everyone.
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Registered: 01-24-2007
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 7:17am

Is he still with the old girlfriend or seeing anyone else?

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Registered: 03-24-2006
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 9:44am
That's a very good question, and honestly, I do not know.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 12:39pm
If he's not specifically saying he wants to get back together with you, don't go making plans.
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Registered: 03-24-2006
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 1:20pm
I'm not too concerned with the sex.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 1:27pm

::He used to always preach that despite his infidelities, he's a decent man.


Sorry, I don't know his definition of 'decent' but cheating doesn't come to mind.


Read this book:


Do Not Touch, Talk to, Marry or Otherwise Fiddle with Frogs, by Nailah Shami





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Registered: 03-24-2006
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 2:00pm
So, I should get it out my head that nothing is really rekindling... he's just wanting a friendship.
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 2:05pm
I have some experience with dealing with relationships and infidelity. Not everyone that cheats once will always cheat. You have to look at their reasons for cheating. If it's been a serial problem in the past, though, it's likely to continue UNLESS the cheater gets serious therapy to help in identifying why s/he behaves the way s/he does. I would never get reinvolved with a cheater unless he had proven he had seriously worked on his issues with the assistance of a professional.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 2:33pm

If he's not sought professional help to figure out why he cheated, what motivates him, what he does to justify his behavior, than once a cheater, always a cheater would probably apply to him.

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Registered: 03-24-2006
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 6:41pm
Wow, you guys are brutal!
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Registered: 10-03-2007
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 6:17am

" Once a cheater, always a cheater ", not true if it happens only once. Same is true for " once a liar , always a liar".

Some people will realize after they have lost about what they have lost and try to make it work again.But it is during this second time , you have to watch for the second lie or sign of cheating because if he lies again , he will lose all your trust which you still do.And you too will never trust him again.

But i will be very cautious in developing my R with him again.And , will keep my eyes wide open and all ears as well :)
You still love him thats why you might be ignoring the real reasons now just because he is back even though as friends.Be cautious.