relationship over still together

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Registered: 04-10-2008
relationship over still together
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Wed, 04-16-2008 - 1:51pm

I am in a bad relationship, but just recently realized it. I'm the type of person who will just blame everything on myself so i'm not staying upset and being negative. I have been in this relationship for two years now. Were engaged and have a ten month old baby. I fell in love instantly,and so did he. I thought we were perfect together. W have had a few ups and downs, but have gotton through them. Like i said earlier i blame everything on myself, but it has caught up to me, and now i realize the kind of person that he has become. He is emotionally abusive person he treats me like crap. In a way partially blame myself because i always gave in and let him walk all over me. Everyday he finds a reason to get mad at me, ands finds a way to insult me. I want to leave but i don't really don't have any place to go have no family members close by or none that i could ask to stay with. i have no job or car. He wrecked it. I want to get a job but we can't afford daycare. He is great with the baby so i feel like i should stay until i can make enough money to leave. I am afraid the longer i stay the more he will pull me toward him. I know he doesn't want me to believe. The whole situation just sucks. Becasue he has so many qualities that i love. And i just keep thinking what happened to us, can we salvage this relationship. And even if we break up i still have to stay awhile to get enough money. I just can't bare splitting custody of my baby. In a way i would rather just stay. Someone please knock some sense into me.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 04-16-2008 - 2:14pm

Welcome to the board jbabybop,


Here are some resources to consider:


Recognizing & Dealing with Domestic Abuse


Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse -- Gregory L. Jantz