I did the unthinkable.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2008
I did the unthinkable.
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Thu, 04-17-2008 - 1:26pm

I read a post on here that went into detail about how we cannot convince a man to be with us, no matter what. And sadly, that's what I had been trying to do.
The post also went into detail about how if a man is to be with us, he will be with us.

Thank being said, I did the unthinkable.

I wrote a letter.
In it I told him about how it feels like I don't even know him anymore, how I couldn't understand how he could love me so much one moment, and be so disinterested the next. I told him that I was blocking him from msn and email, because I (basically feel like crap -didn't say that :) no longer want to lower what we once shared, to forced electronic small talk.
I said to him if he wants to, he can call me and he knows where I am. I mentioned that, in my belief, a break is simply a nice way of letting someone go. I said that if two people are meant to be together, then they are together.

And I sent it via email.

I heard through the grapevine that he has a new interest and so...I must move on. The pain of having even a little bit of contact with him (and falsely getting my hopes up) is too much to withstand.

I feel as though I did the right thing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-05-2004
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 1:32pm
I know you did the right thing. It shows how you're growing and how mature you are. And, you took a gigantic step towards your own healing. You should be very proud of yourself.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-29-2008
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 5:44pm
you did the right thing. straightforwardness is a serious tool. it cuts through all the bs and you make it clear where you are coming from