How do I handle this?
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| Fri, 04-18-2008 - 8:28am |
I have been with my boyfriend for over two years. We are both seniors in college, but our relationship was very serious. We were planning on moving together after graduation and eventually, in a few years, getting married. However, our circumstances have changed after a significant amount of drama last semester. I no longer feel comfortable moving with him, and he doesn't want to be in a relationship for three years, the amount of time he will be in law school (I don't really either). It is clear that we will have to break up upon graduation, as hard and awful as it will be. I know that at this point, it is probably for the best, even though we thought that we would be together forever.
Now the problem:
We have agreed to stay together until graduation so that we can enjoy what time we have left together and respect the relationship that we have. I have been seeing a therapist, and she says that this would probably make the most sense for us now and it is what we both want. But how can I be in this relationship when I know it is going to end? Every time I am with him, I think about how many days we have left and how pretty soon I may never even see him again. And then I just get upset and I really don't want to spend our last few weeks together completely miserable.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

Welcome to the board starlover2007,
There is a line from a movie - Do you want to hurt now or hurt later?
You already know you are going to be in pain over the break up.