WHY DOES HE SAY I LOVE U
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WHY DOES HE SAY I LOVE U
| Tue, 04-22-2008 - 8:11am |
Im sick and tired of this man in my life.. who keeps saying he loves me and cant stop thinking of me.. but when i call or talk to him he doesnt arrange to see me.. and keeps his distance,

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how old are you, again?
Welcome to the board roxette2008,
Sounds like he likes the chase, to push-pull and to tease you, keep you on a string. You are going to have to be the one to set boundaries and enforce them.
25.. his 21..
I am not saying you are aggressive. What i mean is that there could be some part of your personality which you may not realize you have but he is intimidated by it.Dont get me wrong, that part of your personality is not in the bad sense otherwise he wouldnt be coming back to you inspite of your telling him to break-up.hope this makes sense.
Now the problem is that you both love one another.Its a problem :), yeah. He will come out from his shell,bet me.If you love him too then just be a bit more patient and let him fight his demons.Not to sound to be taking his side but take it this way, he is intimidated by something which in real may not be even present but he still has the balls to say ILU and IMU.
If you also love him,give him time.There are a lot of games you can play which will make him jump out but that depends on you, if you want to or not but they dont last long.
If you dont love him then why bother?? You are bothered and irritated because you love him too but he is taking time.Now, it also depends how much time he takes.If he takes too much, hes at a loss because this behavior on his part can be tolerated and taken something cool for a while but after that you will not be interested in him anymore as ( to me personally) it will seem hes got some real problems!!
Give him some time but if he doesnt come 'properly' , then you know that he has some real big issues and you have been saved.My mantra to get over someone is, every one has faults, after breakup make them the highlight of your ex and move on.
Hope this helps.
Hi.. to be honest.. you have really made sense in this email..i promise what your saying is so true.
Because everytime i ignore him he calls and says why are you ignoring me i love you and miss u, then he doesnt say lets see each other.and starts being strange again.
He has issues for sure..you are right..
So your advice is to ignore him.. which i am doing. but everytime he comes back in a
wat games can i play to make him jump put.. hehe?
Dump him.Honestly.
You may not agree here but this guy doesnt seem to have a healthy mind.The way he is behaving is crazy and i promise you will go crazy too if you continue to analyze his behavior.For how long this is going on? if it has not been able to bring up himself to you in a 1-2 months ( maximum) , then you must forget about him and consider yourself lucky.He will make you feel guilty later for whatever is not right in his life ,etc,etc.No person in right frame of mind will behave the way he is doing.
Dont give another thought.Change your nos, dont go to mutual friends functions and just cut him off from your life.you dont need a person like this and cant be so desperate.
If you still want to try, give him an ultimatum.If he still doesnt come( he wont, by what you tell here in this particular post), get a new bf with a 'sound and healthy mind'.He is worried about his being sick and you not being there for him but what if you are sick, do you think he will be there for you? No, he wont.
I know you didnt want to listen this but he is not the right guy.
his been like this for the last 3 months..
when we were together it was heaven.. then we broke up..and he changed after that..
saying like his scared to get bak together coz its gna be like before.. and
Why did you break up?
Its not if what happened in the past will repeat itself, but there is no surety.But , how will he know till he doesnt get back again nicely and stop acting like a pyscho ( sorry, but he sounds that to me now). For this you two have to talk and hes not talking properly.Why does he say you put him down? what happened?
Nothing to be scared of.He wont harm you.he is lost somehow and doesnt know what to do but at the same time if you initiate, he doesnt respond !
" i feel like his something has taken over his mind.." Now , he is not in right frame of mind, like i said earlier.Maybe he didnt handle the break up rightly, was not prepared or didnt see it coming.He doesnt want to lose you and so, the push and pull.Its not scary.
3 months is a long time to behave like this.Take him to a doctor if nothing helps,kidding!
Dump him !
Another thought, if his problem of not being able to come up to you in the correct manner is not solved soon then believe me, inspite of you both being in love with oneother ,your R will die a slow death without either of you realizing it.it will be sad then.
You have done your best, now let him come out.
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