Why did I love him?
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| Tue, 04-22-2008 - 10:12am |
I ended dating a man, for the second time. I cooked, cleaned his apartment, had unprotected sex with him, and shopped for him. I had to call him on my birthday. He promised to buy me lingerie but didn't. Finally, in bed a couple of nights ago, he said, "I don't know if I can be monogamous." He told me that a person can be too eager for a relationship. And it hit me: I'm in love with a man who didn't love me.
How did I let myself, twice, get involved with him? I hoped if I gave him what he wanted, he would love me in return. Instead he just took and took. I felt used. He didn't kiss me unless I asked. He didn't go down on me for months. I begged for affection and he didn't want to give it to me and got angry if I asked or placed his had on me. I was so desperate for him to love me, that I offered to have kinky sex the way he wanted it. But then I changed my mind. But he kept insisting on it and calling me a liar. I agreed

A friend recommended a book called "Women Who Love Too Much" - buy it and read it!
It'll help you understand what's going on with you! I promise!
Welcome to the board lonelygirl38851,
I hope you get the book that was recommended to you.
I'm glad to hear it! Maybe it will help, maybe it won't but its got to be worth a try!
I'm working my way through similiar issues
Lonelygirl,
Oh, I was stuck in a relationship much like that. Personally, I have a maternal instinct that kicks in, and I end up attracting people that want to be taken care of and catered to and not being independent. That was my issue, I'm sure you'll find what it is, and fix it from here forward! Good luck! We're here for you!