what do i do?

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Registered: 09-07-2007
what do i do?
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Thu, 04-24-2008 - 10:02am

hi everyone. been with ldr guy for over a year. we decided in the beginning that we were just going to take things slow and see where things go...

i've gotten in a place with me that i am ready to move forward. with or without him. although i would like to be with him. i told him this about a month ago, and he said let's take some time to think things over, and talk about it again. we still talked on the phone, but we wanted to talk face to face about this subject.

he is a pilot, and yesterday he says he might be able to get a flight in in for sat, would i be able to meet him. i said probably, but i'll get back with you for sure. later that night, he calls me and leaves a voicemail, telling me that if i was still wanting more from him, he didn't know if he should take the flight, but to call him and we could talk it out. i hadn't had a chance to call him, and a few hours later, he txts me telling me that he'd picked up the flight and couldn't wait to see me....

i just am thoroughly confused by him. he has been what i consider the 'girl' of the relationship - always bringing the subject of us up. he has always treated me with respect and is a genuinely nice, thoughtful guy. if he doesn't want to move forward with me/us, why is he giving all these mixed signals and this pitiful excuse of an ultimatum, and then three hours later, take it back? all these attempted mind games? any advice or insight? thanks! j




Edited 4/24/2008 4:43 pm ET by jcountrygirl
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 04-24-2008 - 12:39pm

Welcome to the board jcountrygirl,


he says he might be able to get a flight in in for sat, would i be able to meet him.


if i was still wanting more from him, he didn't know if he should take the flight, but to call him and we could talk it out.


he txts me telling me that he'd picked up the flight and couldn't wait to see me....


Maybe he doesn't know what he wants.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 04-24-2008 - 10:17pm

Hmm, I don't see it that way at all.

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Registered: 09-07-2007
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 12:25pm

haha! ok, you busted me on the outwardly acting independent! but there is alot more details to this story!

when he called me the other day, i said i could probably make it, but i needed to check with work. i live two hours one way away from the airport he flies into!

when we talked a month or so ago, i laid it out on the line for him. when he couldn't tell me how he FELT about me, and HE was the one needing time to think things out, i backed off and gave him the time and space that he needed. i have been honest about how i feel about him. that i want him in my life, etc.

so when he said to me on VOICEMAIL wednesday that he couldn't remember all we talked about about, but if i was still wanting more, then he didn't know if he should get a flight in, but to call him and we could talk things over, THAT'S when i became hurt and confused.

i didn't answer him back right away because i needed to think about what to say to him, and within a few hours, he txt me telling me that he had gotten the flight in...without us talking about things first. THAT'S what i am confused about!!! :)

hopefully that sheds some new light on the whole situation. :) thanks for your guys' input...i really appreciate it! :) j