Advice and Support Needed

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Registered: 02-23-2007
Advice and Support Needed
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Thu, 04-24-2008 - 6:09pm

Well it is has been about 8 months since I wrote my last post and I am here again for support.


My ex fiance left me in February last year after a 7 year relationship.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 04-24-2008 - 7:25pm

Welcome to the board learningagain,


I can understand how you feel and I think it's normal.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 2:59pm

It's understandable that you're hurt and angry and it's probably going to take a while to get over that. He basically deceived you about his desire to have kids and being deceived is always painful.


Focusing on accepting that that is the type of man he is and redirecting your thoughts when you think of him towards that acceptance will help you get to the point where you can let go of the anger.

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Registered: 04-24-2008
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 3:13pm
As far as the kid goes i can only think that either he just didnt want to have children with you for some reason or that this other woman was your complete opposite and somehow changed his mind on the issue. Bottom line is take it from a guy here, we're all jerks to some extent, some just bigger than others. Glad to hear that you've moved on and found someone nice.
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Registered: 02-23-2007
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 4:27pm

Thanks Jesta217,

Nice to hear what a guy has to say on the matter. I believe it was his way of sealing the deal by having a child with a woman that makes 20 times more money than me, he doesn't have to support her, she apparently supports the whole family. Six weeks into a relationship is a bit soon to plan a pregnancy but that is his life I guess. I am doing very well, in fact my sister had a baby yesterday and it seemed to heal the wound even more which is amazing.

Thanks for your input.

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Registered: 04-24-2008
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 10:55pm
your welcome for the input and I just wanted to add that at least from my point of view any relationship that involves pregnancy 6 weeks in is pretty much doomed!!!