my fiance broke up w/ me!!!!!! HELP!!
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| Sat, 05-03-2008 - 1:18am |
My fiancee of 3 years just broke up with me last night and I am going absolutely crazy! I cant believe that it is over, I wont belive it. hes my heart, my everything. WE have 2 cats and a dog together, no kids but that in itself is hard. I'm taking the cats no matter what and I know he will keep our dog which makes me sick.
Everything that we have is in my name, credit cards, utilities...everything. his mom screwed up his credit when he was younger and now mine is screwed bc I'm in debt like crazy now....so now what? I know he wouldn't just leave me with all these bills to pay but still if this is forever how do I get over him when we both need to pay money to my cards every month you know?
Thank goodness my parents are the best so I'm staying in my old room till everything gets figured out but how am I supposed to go to the house we shared and separate everything we have together like who get the TV, furniture..etc. how are you guys going to do that? I don't even know where to start.
his mom is a whole other story...shes 350 lbs and COMPLETELY dependent upon him, she doesn't have any desire to get a guy bc she feels bad about herself AND just relies on my fiancee to do everything for her. it effing sick she needs to cut the cord already he just turned 25 get your own man you know?! I don't know I just don't even know what to do with myself....how do I start over? my life was this guy for 3 years and I love him with all my heart.
I wasn't completely happy though, I love him so much but for some reason he was so quick to get upset with me, like for example we went to Alcatraz for his birthday last weekend and when you are there its a self guided tour with an mp3 player talking your way thru it, well he got mad at me bc I was in a different part of the tape than him and so he had to catch up to me...are you kidding me?! is that REALLY necessary???? it was just really stupid things and he would get like that with his mom too, I think he needs anxiety meds or depression meds or something I don't know he was just like a really short fuse. I know I didn't deserve the way he treated me sometimes and it got to the point where he would never compliment me...I would have to say "baby do I look okay?!" and he would say "beautiful baby" but its Ike I ALWAYS had to prompt him to say something when he used to say nice things all the time. so that inurn made me feel like he wasn't attracted to me and so I never initiated sex bc I was scared he would not want to. he never turned me down but I don't know its just weird.
By the way, cheating is not an option, i know he wouldnt and that is not what its about. he gets stressed out about our bills and how much we make, with the credit cards we have it seems like no mater how much we pay, the stupid balance NEVER goes down its soooo frustrating and that is what has really taken a toll on us, that is what started our whole arguement last night. he gets stressed out really easily and we both feel like we are just totally in over our heads with bills. i cant stand it and neither can he. it causes us to get into arguements about it, and everything that i just said above stems from bills and money!!!!!!!!!! maybe once all of our debt is cleared we can be together but i dont know im just feeling sooo broken hearted i love him tooo much guys!!!! hes sooooo important to me i love him DANG IT!!! sorry i keep going on and on....
I just feel so lost, like where do I go from here? I have no friends anymore, we either drifted apart or they done live around me anymore.

Welcome to the board loverbee21,
::I know he wouldn't just leave me with all these bills to pay but still if this is forever how do I get over him when we both need to pay money to my cards every month you know?
Is he going to pay?