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| Sat, 05-03-2008 - 10:19am |
i dated my girlfriend for almost 6 months. one day she said she wanted a break. i called her a week later, told her how much i cared about her and how i wanted her forever. she replied by saying 'i dont feel the same way about you, that you do about me, and thats not fair to you.'
i tired to contact her many times over the next few weeks, but she refused. finally, after about a month, i texted her asking if there was anything i could have done differently, and she said 'no, there was nothing you could have done, i just didnt feel the same way.'
im not sure if this was an issue, but i still hadnt introduced her to my family yet. she would hint at meeting them, but never directly asked.
from what she said, would this be something she would end it over? if it was an issue, would she talk to me about it first.
were both 25. she was a girl who was looking to settle down, and she knew i was as well. i had asked her to move in with me, and she only said 'maybe'.

I'm very sorry about your pain, and I can understand how confusing and hurtful it is when someone you care about doesn't feel the same way you do. You think, how could that be possible when you feel so much for them? It's very possible.
The heart knows no bounds, it also knows no reason or logic. Sure, you can encourage someone to have feelings for you, but you can't force them.
You mentioned you dated less than six months, yet you had already talked about moving in together. It's very possible you were going way too fast for her. Maybe she's the type that needs to be in a relationship longer to consider that. Maybe the way she envisioned a relationship she would invest herself in was different than what was playing out between you. In any case, please understand that the way things were going wasn't satisfactory to her, and to try and change it now, to second-guess it now, to try and patch things here or there with quick fixes, etc, none of that will do you any good. It may even be hurtful to your sense of self, your self confidence, and your self esteem.
You are FINE the way you are. Believe that. She's just fine, too. But however the two of you were together during this time, was selling both of you short for the relationships you are each meant to have.
Good luck,