Well, I do have an answer for you, some would say it's *the* answer, some would disagree :)
Repeat after me: "A relationship will not save me." As Marie Forleo says, 'believing a relationship will save you is the #1 most self-defeating dating mindset.' What she's talking about and what I've been trying to get across to pretty much anyone who reads this board, is that a relationship will not take away the loneliness, the emptiness, the fears that everyone feels in their life. It's YOUR life.
Your "problem" is that you think there must be "something else" out there that's better than what you have already. You're so focused on what you don't have, that you're not appreciating what you do have. The classes and the ability to not only have the comprehension it takes to get an education of any kind, but the financial wherewithal to actually afford the *luxury* of taking a class that you don't really need, but rather want. The physical ability to actually get up and dance and learn the line dancing.
You're 29 years old with a great job, a master's degree, a house you own, no debt, etc, etc, and instead of taking yourself to amazing places in the world, you're focusing on the fact that you're not yet tied down to a house, kids, and husband, you're lamenting that you don't have those things.
Tell you a secret: EVERYTHING is exactly as it should be. When you take full advantage of THIS moment, right here and right now, THAT is when the rest of everything will fall into place.
Here's another secret: This moment is the only one that matters. Things won't be 'better' later if you don't make the most of now. Pg 38 of Make Every Man Want You:
"You are totally capable of experiencing happiness, satisfaction, and fulfillment right now. All you have to do is start living your life like you count...That means stop putting off your dreams, waiting for someday, or delaying taking action on those things you know you want for yourself, because somewhere deep inside you're hoping that Prince Charming will come along to make it all better."
And yes, I realize you're "doing" all this great stuff, but to put it bluntly, none of that matters if you don't BELIEVE in it yourself.
Last secret: "Holding back in your life is what's keeping him away."
I wish there were something I could do to fast-forward time for you to the point where you are over him, but unfortunately that's not possible.
Well, I do have an answer for you, some would say it's *the* answer, some would disagree :)
Repeat after me: "A relationship will not save me." As Marie Forleo says, 'believing a relationship will save you is the #1 most self-defeating dating mindset.' What she's talking about and what I've been trying to get across to pretty much anyone who reads this board, is that a relationship will not take away the loneliness, the emptiness, the fears that everyone feels in their life. It's YOUR life.
Your "problem" is that you think there must be "something else" out there that's better than what you have already. You're so focused on what you don't have, that you're not appreciating what you do have. The classes and the ability to not only have the comprehension it takes to get an education of any kind, but the financial wherewithal to actually afford the *luxury* of taking a class that you don't really need, but rather want. The physical ability to actually get up and dance and learn the line dancing.
You're 29 years old with a great job, a master's degree, a house you own, no debt, etc, etc, and instead of taking yourself to amazing places in the world, you're focusing on the fact that you're not yet tied down to a house, kids, and husband, you're lamenting that you don't have those things.
Tell you a secret: EVERYTHING is exactly as it should be. When you take full advantage of THIS moment, right here and right now, THAT is when the rest of everything will fall into place.
Here's another secret: This moment is the only one that matters. Things won't be 'better' later if you don't make the most of now. Pg 38 of Make Every Man Want You:
"You are totally capable of experiencing happiness, satisfaction, and fulfillment right now. All you have to do is start living your life like you count...That means stop putting off your dreams, waiting for someday, or delaying taking action on those things you know you want for yourself, because somewhere deep inside you're hoping that Prince Charming will come along to make it all better."
And yes, I realize you're "doing" all this great stuff, but to put it bluntly, none of that matters if you don't BELIEVE in it yourself.
Last secret: "Holding back in your life is what's keeping him away."
Read this, because you desperately need it,
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=24935.1
And get Marie Forleo's book that I mentioned above. You'll thank me, I guarantee it.
Good luck,