Taking a vacation?

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Taking a vacation?
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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 3:51pm

Thanks to all for their advice.


Question- after your break up, did you feel the urge to just go away?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 3:57pm

Oh, a change of scenery is a GREAT idea!

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Registered: 04-29-2008
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:18pm

GO FOR IT!!!!!!!

I know what you mean about feeling held back because of your relationship. My ex never enjoyed going on vacations, he wasn't used to it because his family never did it when he was a kid. (Also there was the whole never being happy in any situation thing...) So I would want to go to all of these places and he would either not want to go or go and make me feel like I was dragging him. Which made things no fun.

A lot of things passed me by because I didn't want to do them without him. But in the last couple months, I've gone on 3 vacations without him (one being the cruise I just took with my family last weekend that he was supposed to be on as well) and I must've known this was coming because even on those first 2 vacations while we were still together, I really didn't miss him that much.. not as much as I used to.

But anyway, sorry to ramble. What I'm saying is, you should do this for you! You will feel great that you didn't let another opportunity pass you by.

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:37pm

Yes, do it! There was just an article in the NY Times about the value of doing new things that are mildly fear-invoking because they are so different. Here's a link if you're interested:

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/05/04/business/04unbox.html?ex=1367553600&en=e1

Also, if you're into relationship/self-help books, "Loving Him without Losing You" is one of the best books I've read about how to not let your life revolve around a partner. Take it with you on your trip!