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I know you're out there....
| Tue, 08-30-2005 - 5:46am |
...I can hear you breathing!
Who are you??? Where are you??? C'mon guys, these members deserve more input than they're getting -- how can they get the points of view of many if "many" are just reading and not offering their thought? Not that lurking isn't okay too, but it's nicer if I don't feel like I'm in an empty room, they're kinda echo-y and it gets lonely, you know? ;o)
How about all you lurkers and passers-by let me know you're out there by posting to this thread? A little conversation and idle chit-chat is a good thing!
"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
Crisis Center: Rape and Suicide
Besides, the number of "hits" (views) the posts are getting tells me you're out there, so how come I feel so alone???? Do I need new deodorant??? Breath mints??? I swear I shower every day!
Who are you??? Where are you??? C'mon guys, these members deserve more input than they're getting -- how can they get the points of view of many if "many" are just reading and not offering their thought? Not that lurking isn't okay too, but it's nicer if I don't feel like I'm in an empty room, they're kinda echo-y and it gets lonely, you know? ;o)
How about all you lurkers and passers-by let me know you're out there by posting to this thread? A little conversation and idle chit-chat is a good thing!
"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown

Crisis Center: Rape and Suicide

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I'm here too.....I lurk a lot. I love reading 2nd Life's responses and always learn a lot too, if the problem is something I feel I can answer to, I do, but not often. Mostly I'm peeking in from work and it's hard to get time to answer.
2nd Life, I always feel so good after reading your thoughts and how much you care and try to help people. You definitely have a gift that lets people know that they are cared about. If I'm having a bad day, I come here to get perspective. I feel a kinship with you because I, too got out of a bad marriage, although mine had different issues.
So, thanks for all of your hard work and warmth!
Pam
Okay that's 3 out of the 49 that have viewed this thread. What happened to the other 46 of you? Where are the you? You don't really expect me to think that Marcy, Pam and Q and I reread this thread 11 times each, do you? LOL!
C'mon!
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown

my signature exchange partner:Crisis Center: Rape and Suicide
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Hey Marcy, nice to see you! I'm glad you like what you read here, and I have to say, it seems to me that you've posted with some pretty darned good advice yourself; I've always gotten the idea that you have a pretty good sense of self and independence, and that's a very good thing. It seems to me though, that this post is different than most of your others, don't you usually post more in a text message kind of format?
I know what you mean about learning a lot here, I've learned a lot here too, and continue to do so -- that is when I'm not the only one responding!
Thanks for chiming in.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown

my signature exchange partner:Crisis Center: Rape and Suicide
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Hey Pam, great to see you! No need to be blushing though, lurking is perfectly fine, and yes, I can definitely relate to no time to post from work. I do have to say though, that it feels kind of odd when there's only one or two of us posting and you can see that the threads are being viewed by scores of people. Remember that Bugs Bunny/Daffy Duck cartoon where their car breaks down on a stormy night in front of a broken down castle? Wherever they walk there are a million eyes on them, but when they turn around, the eyes are all gone. It feels a little like that - lol! It's hard to know why no one else is chiming in and whether they agree or disagree with what your take on the post is. Dialog and differing viewpoints is a good thing.
Thanks so much for your kind words. I think all of us who have gone through the hell of a bad marriage and gotten out share a certain sense of peace, contentment and joy that others just can't grasp. Adversity definitely makes you appreciate the simple things.
Your posts have always been very caring, passionate and solid, I've always loved what you had to say, your deep caring shows through in the responses you post. Please don't feel obligated to do anything but lurk, but if you want to post, do it! And if you don't have anything you want to respond to, just posting a "hi" now and then to keep in touch would be great! It's hard to know you're out there otherwise!
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown

my signature exchange partner:Crisis Center: Rape and Suicide
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Nice to see you Quenek ~ It's good to know you're there.
I guess I've always felt that even if the responses are all in agreement, the OP knows that a number of people agree that on the situation and it's solution. If just one or two are responding, the OP wonders if the others don't agree and aren't going to say, if the others aren't interested in their post or what. Numbers of threads in agreement solidify the answers. And, often, the way one words something, or a thought brought out by one will click with the OP where the others won't. I can't tell you how many times I've had a whole new "revelation" about a post due to a comment made by one of the responders.
I know that when I've posted I prefer a lot of answers, even if they all say the same basic thing, even if they're one word, "agree" responses. But, maybe you don't feel the same, you've posted a few times here, and maybe other places too, what do you think? Do you prefer many responses or do the numbers not matter to you?
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown

my signature exchange partner:Crisis Center: Rape and Suicide
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Hi!
I'm here, too--it's one of my favorite boards. I don't post all the time because I feel like I talk too much, or one of the other posters has said exactly what I wanted to say, only better. The collective wisdom on these boards is very impressive, and I learn a lot every time I read, especially from you and from Quenek.
I'm in basic lurk mode most of the time now too. Had a lot going on where it was hard to post. Not only that, but I just get the feeling that the way I think and would do things is A LOT more conservative (how is that for a nice word for old-fashioned?) than most of the people who post here. Though I will chime in when I feel like I should.
Jen
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