Question -- ALL Please Respond

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Question -- ALL Please Respond
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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 3:44am

  • What would you, as board members (yes all of you, from those who are here posting all the time to those who show up once in a blue moon, to those who "only" lurk, you're all board members) like to see on this board that you don't see now, what would make it more appealing, more inviting to you?
  • What do you like here and what do you not like here?
  • Some boards do QOTW (Question of the week), Roll calls, etc., but it's been my experience (and please correct me if you this isn't true for you) that the personality of those who like to respond on problem solving boards is such that they aren't much into "idle chat", rather, they want to answer the posts and move on. But if you'd like to see more chatting on the board, I need to know that so I can change it!
  • I would love any and all thoughts, comments and suggestions, including personal critique.


    It's important to know what you like as well as what you don't like, and if you like it as it is, then say that; if you don't tell me what you think, I can't know whether you're happy as is or hate it and wish it would change.


    If you prefer email to post, you can email me at cl-2nd_life@comcast.net


    Please let me know, I'm really counting on your comments.






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    iVillage Member
    Registered: 12-27-2004
    Fri, 09-02-2005 - 5:15am

    I am not much into roll calls--they seem like a waste of time. We know who's here by seeing who posts, and after awhile we get to know their personalities by reading their opinions about the problems. Question of the Week would depend on the question, and of course there's no way to know that in advance.

    It's possible that this will always be a quiet board--that's not necessarily a bad thing. One question I would ask, however, is, "What is the perceived function of this board? What is it intended to do that is not already being done by other boards?" The board's function will then provide its impetus and focus.

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 03-25-2003
    Fri, 09-02-2005 - 10:58am

    Personally, I'm happy with the board the way it is. I agree that chit-chat would kind of feel out of place on this board. At least idle chit-chat. :)

    I think the board is doing just fine, even if it is a little slow. It still does better than a lot of the other boards I frequent. Which I am not so sure is a good thing, LOL!

    Jen

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 02-15-2005
    Fri, 09-02-2005 - 11:08am

    I agree with Jen -- the board does seem fine the way it is, and that idle chit-chat would be seem out of place.

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    Fri, 09-02-2005 - 11:17am

    I just wanted to add that I prefer it when boards stay true to their intended purpose.

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    Registered: 03-26-2003
    Fri, 09-02-2005 - 11:31am

    Thanks for your answers so far.








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    iVillage Member
    Registered: 09-09-2004
    Fri, 09-02-2005 - 2:05pm

    Hi Cl - I agree with the other posters that roll call is not needed on this type of board. They do it on the fitness boards but I think it's appropriate there because fitness is like a "buddy" system. Yes this board has been a little slow lately but it could be because peole are on vacation, returning to school etc..etc.. "or" maybe evrybody's getting along with their SO ? Which that could be so true. Anyway - I think the board is just fine and I get alot out of reading the other poster's advice. I have also used this board to find great reading resources.

    Have a good holiday weekend everybody!

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    Registered: 03-25-2003
    Fri, 09-02-2005 - 2:12pm

    2nd-Life,

    I have to say that the board I cl has dropped off dramatically here recently too. It wasn't as active as this one was, but the boards I frequent regularly have dropped a lot too. One board I visit would get anywhere from 25-80 posts in a day, and usually it was over 50 unless it was the weekend. Now when I see it has 10 in a day, I think it's been a busy day there. So I know a lot of the boards are having issues. Not quite sure why. And drumming up more activity has been very hard on the other boards too. So it's not just this one or this channel.

    Jen

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    Registered: 07-17-2005
    Fri, 09-02-2005 - 3:24pm

    cl-2nd life -

    I mostly agree with the other posters (although, I personally wouldn't mind occasional roll calls, just to make the board a little more personal, but its not a necessity for me). I think they're right that idle chit-chat would be a little out of place here. But, I also think you're right that the small number of posts can be a little disheartening at times. It seems like sometimes I know the only person who'll respond to posts is you, and while your opinion is valued, we all know that different perspectives can be helpful. So, if there was anything I'd change about the board, I would just want a little more activity, even if all responses say the same darn thing (which we've already addressed in your last post).

    And, to answer the question you asked, things aren't going too well with bf. After he apologized he was a prince for a few days. Things started getting a little tense last weekend, and by Monday he blew up at me for something completely stupid. I told him to stop it and that I wouldn't take this s*#t from him anymore and he stormed out of my apt in a sarcastic rage. Thats the last time I talked to him. I imagine the next time I talk to him will be when I bring him his things (maybe this weekend) - although I DON'T want to talk about us, or him being sorry. I just want to give him his stuff and call it a day.

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    Registered: 10-13-2004
    Fri, 09-02-2005 - 6:31pm

    Good question. Mind you, the other board I frequent these days is Dr Ruth and it's been VERY slow too.

    I agree with the others that idle chit chat is not something I seek. But I also think that it's good for people to land on a board and not move straight on because it's empty. While the focus of the board is to give problem solving advice, I believe that it's important to have a number of active posters - because without the posters - there's no advice. And I'll be frank - if I go to a board which continually has limited posts, I get bored and find another. (yeah, I'm fickle!)

    What I would like to see is a folder for *on topic* QOTW or general discussions. For instance, I found this newspaper item
    http://smh.com.au/articles/2005/08/30/1125302566185.html regarding how some men feel uncomfortable with their wives after witnessing childbirth - and I think it could make a good discussion piece.

    Aside from newspaper items, other on topic QOTW/general discussions could be "How do you keep peace in your marriage?" or "What is the secret to a happy marriage?" or "What can be improved in your marriage"? Or even "what do you think if Dr Phil's marriage advice?"

    The way I see it, we're a bunch of opinionated advice givers - so many may want to give advice even if it's to a QOTW

    Hope this helps.

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    Registered: 02-15-2005
    Fri, 09-02-2005 - 7:28pm

    I really like your ideas iv_aisha -- general disussions about marriages would be a great thing to do, a way to share how we each deal with common issues.


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