Swing Party's/Threesomes

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Swing Party's/Threesomes
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Tue, 10-04-2005 - 2:10pm
My boyfriend have been dating almost a year. We had a rocky start because we met in the middle of a small sex party. (I was the only girl & 4 other guys) Anyway, I had sex with most of his friends by the time we started getting serious. Since then we been pretty committed to each other. We had a threesome w/ another girl and went to several swing parties. At the swing parties I usually hook up w/ guys mostly and he gets mad cause he gets left out. We are thinking about getting married. He seems to think that after a few more threesomes w/ another girl (he prefers) this swinging/threesome thing will stop. He tells me that he loves me more than anything in this world and says if I really love him that I will have a threesome w/ him (me & another girl). Its seems to me that he wants to settle the score but he says no -its because he wants to "see if I can just be w/ him & another girl without any other guys involved". (a test I guess to prove I Love him). I said we should just stop swinging/threesomes altogether, but he says I should be mature enough to handle this situation. Oh, I'm 40 & he's 28. What do you think??
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Registered: 05-29-2003
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 4:51pm
I think that you two were made for each other.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 12:24am

I think at the age of 40 you know the answers to the questions you're asking. By now you know better than to think that you have to do anything to *prove* you love anyone. I also think you know whether you'll be willing to quit swinging after a few more episodes or not and you know the reason that you avoid threesomes that involve your boyfriend. What I don't know is why you're avoiding being straight with him about it, but I'm sure you do; and if you don't, some soul searching will get you to the answer.







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