Nice gifts from my ex.
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Nice gifts from my ex.
| Mon, 10-24-2005 - 2:01am |
Hi again. This isn't really a problem with my relationship, but since I got such good advice here last time I thought I'd come back for more. I've been cleaning out my bedroom and I found some stuff that my ex gave me over a year ago. In case you forgot, I've been with my current boyfriend for 8 months now, and I love him so much. This stuff from my ex is nice stuff...a silk robe and nightgown, a glass rose, an expensive summer dress, and a silver necklace. I'm trying to decide whether to put it all in a box to save to remember that time in my life...I don't hate my ex or anything, and I'm grateful for the relationship I had with him. But I've moved on, so another part of me thinks I should get rid of all of it and put it behind me. I'll still have pictures and memories. I don't know though, what do you guys think?

Is there any reason that you can't wear the clothes and jewelry? I know that I would. I'm still wearing a dressing gown that my ex-husband gave me when we were still together. It's great quality - so it still looks as good as new. It's warm and comfortable - so why pack it away or discard it? It's not as though we're wearing old engagement rings or sexy undies (that WOULD be tacky)
The photos? Don't throw them away. Put them in albums in your book shelves or in a box in the attic. But whatever you do, don't feel that it's a bad thing to go back over the pictures and relive some fond memories now and then. Again, my DH and I both have albums containing our ex's - and it's really no big deal. The main concession I made was to start a new album with my DH's photos and leave the albums containing my ex incomplete. Though my DH's album starts with an ex and finishes with me - so even this concession isn't necessary for everyone.
The far majority of your future b/fs will not even question you keeping photos. And they definately won't ask the origin of your clothes/jewelry. However, if one was to get jealous - it'll be because THEY'VE got issues. You won't be doing anything wrong by keeping your memories.
I think if you want to keep it because of special memories, that's fine, otherwise I'd treat it like anything else I have, if it's something I want to use, want to hang onto to use at another time, or just don't want to part with, I'd keep it, otherwise, it's just taking up space. If you like it, there's no reason not to wear any of it now or any other time you want.
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