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ex's and their stupid dogs
| Thu, 09-28-2006 - 4:57pm |
What is peoples prespective on dog custody??? My fiance has been divorced for a 2 yrs and we have been together 1.5 yrs and his ex just started taking the dog when she doesn't work on the weekends. I am sorry but if you can be with someone 10 yrs married for 1 and get divorced you can let go of the dog. My daughter gets upset when the dog leaves. I can see if the dog were older and whatever. Seriously I think this is retarded. I also hate that it bothers me so much but really move on get your own dog!!!!!!!1

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>>I am sorry but if you can be with someone 10 yrs married for 1 and get divorced you can let go of the dog.<<
She obviously cares for the dog more than she did for her husband. This is why they divorced.
Look, I know all about getting annoyed at yourself because of how you react to little things....but seriously, this is one to let go. If your daughter really gets upset at loosing the dog every other weekend, get her a puppy of her own.
I agree with Aisha -- if it upsets your daughter, get her a dog of her own.
thanks for letting me vent.
tell her to keep the dog and you and your daughter go pick up a dog that will be hers 24/7.
I think she's doing it to be spiteful and to lash out at her ex by hurting your child's feelings because she knows the child loves that dog--she knows that that will cause problems in your household; not that she's so in love with the dog.. if that was the case, she'd have sued for possession of the dog along with the rest of the property division when the divorce first went down.
Edited 9/29/2006 12:46 am ET by quenek
You seem to be suggesting that she's using the dog as an excuse to stay in contact with her ex, which could very well be. I assume that she's never contacted her ex unless she had the excuse of the dog to call about, yes? And that's increased dramatically. Unfortunately, the bottom line is, he's handling this situation the way he wants to. In reality, your issue is with him, not her. He allows her to contact, he allows himself to engage in conversation with her (and be used by her if that's what she's doing). I will say also that I don't think there's anything wrong with ex's being decent and amicable to each other.
You've said that you get jealous/protective when she's around, you indicate that you're concerned about cheating. Has your boyfriend ever cheated, or have you been cheated on before?
What does your boyfriend think of this whole thing? I expect he's pretty well aware of how you feel about it, does he agree or does he think you're out of line? I'm assuming she talks to him about a lot more than just the dog when she calls?
I know my questions may seem like I'm leaning towards you being all wrong and her being perfectly fine and innocent, but that's not what I think. I need a better understanding of the situation before I can form an opinion - I've seen some women that will do anything to try to get a guy who's already in a relationship, and I've seen some women who are extremely jealous of completely appropriate contact between their guy and an ex. Let me know, okay?
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Wow. So people who cheat and have kids shouldn't be able to see their kids, either? A pet should be treated the same way, IMO. People get attached!!! There's nothing wrong with that.
Sheri
No one should use either a pet or a child as an instrument of
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Mmm...well, we are only getting one side of the story here. We don't KNOW for sure that's what the ex is doing--maybe that's just the OP's spin on it. In any event, I doubt very much that a little girl couldn't adapt to the dog being gone for a couple days at a time if the situation were presented to her in a non-judgmental way.
Sheri
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