New BF is a workaholic!

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New BF is a workaholic!
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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 1:53pm

WAAAAAY old post...2 boyfriends ago...just got dug up again...don't want any more advice, so I'm deleting!


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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 6:20pm

His jobs mean more to him than you do...and the quicker you realise this, the quicker you can move on and find someone who suits your needs.

If you try and make this one work, you'll only be setting yourself up for failure and disappointent.

Forget it and move on.

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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 7:00pm

He told you right up front that he's a workaholic, and made it pretty clear that it's not going to change.

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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 8:36pm

It doesn't sound like there is any time for a relationship in his life - and even if he found the time he'd need to catch up on some sleep.

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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 12:15am
Welcome back, Cj311 ~ I don't know that it applies to your current situation or not, but I find it interesting that your previous post was also about work vs. time for each other (Working different shifts.....) coincidence?


Like you said, a relationship is about two people being together, not talking on the phone; you can't have an actual relationship if you can't be together. And, in order for the relationship to grow you'll have to both be willing to make time to be together. Instead of that, your boyfriend has made it clear to you that his work comes first and is choosing more work and less time together. I think he's being very clear on where you and your relationship with him stand in his priority list.


Being with him means always coming second, always waiting while he works more and more, is that the kind of relationship you want?







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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 1:13pm
Hey CJ.

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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 4:50pm

b...and if you add all that together, that means he'll be working 80 hours a week, plus 15 hours a week in travel/lunch (away) time!

When does he sleep?

That means he is working or commuting or eating, every hour he is awake.

This dude simply has no time for you.

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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 5:01pm

LOL


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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 8:04pm
I'm sorry you've chosen to do that, Cj311, not only does your old posts provide you with lots of insight, but they help others who may have similar problems or issues who read through the archives (or the links as I bring them up to correlate with current posts).










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