Does he ever want to marry me?
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Does he ever want to marry me?
| Mon, 10-16-2006 - 1:44am |
I don't know if my boyfriend ever wants to marry me. I knew I wanted to be with him since the first time we spoke. We've been together for two years now and I thought by now we'd have a better idea of what we wanted to do with our relationship, but it seems he's growing less and less fond of marriage, which just kills me. He's all I could ever want, he gives up his free time for me, takes care of me when I'm sick, makes me laugh, and always tells me he loves me and I'm beautiful. He always says he likes things the way they are, and though we're both young and our careers haven't taken off yet, I just want the assurance of the possibility of marriage in the future. Am I so wrong for wanting to know this?

Does he ever want to marry you? At this stage, he doesn't even want to think about marriage. And he's being very honest about that fact.
If I were you, I'd listen to what he says and believe him. If you can accept this about him, then stay. But if you can't accept the uncertainty, leave. But realise that you can't force him to make plans before he's ready.
May I ask how old you both are?
I would really urge you to be happy with the relationship you have right now and spend more of you focus on being happy with yourself, who you are and being secure in your own abilities and independence. When you feel right and happy with yourself and don't *need* a guy to be secure is when you'll be in the right place to make a good choice. When you *need* someone to make you feel secure, that's when you'll be making bad choices. Just try to relax and enjoy your life as it is now, believe me, it's the only chance you'll get to have this kind of freedom, when it's gone it's gone. Your boyfriend has the right idea, don't think about marriage, don't think about changing things up, just go with it as it is for now, enjoy life, give yourself time and don't push things that shouldn't be pushed.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"