Need advice

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Registered: 10-20-2006
Need advice
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Fri, 10-20-2006 - 11:39pm
I have been married for 5 years and we have 3 children. My husband has been away for a few months on a job. One night I went out with friends and my sister in laws boyfriend. I got drunk. Like I don't remember half of the night drunk. So one day my mother in law asks if I have something to tell her.... the first thought that came into my mind was... it had to be that night. I know I did not have sex with anyone. I know that. I think my sister in laws boyfriend said something. Now I feel like my mother in law is holding something over my head cause she wont tell me what her issue is about. She says she will when she feels up to it. In the meantime I'm dying not telling DH. I don't know what happened that night. I know I shouldn't have drank so much but I never drink and get away, I just let loose. What should I do? Should I explain the situation to my DH? Should I wait til my mother in law tells me what she knows? It's eating me up. : /
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: x0inlove0x
Sat, 10-21-2006 - 1:15am
It sounds like you have an idea that something happened/was said that night? Otherwise, I don't know why you'd immediately assume that's the focus of your mother-in-law's question.


I wouldn't wait for anything, whether I was afraid she was going to tell anyone or not. I'd sit down with her, tell her I have no idea what she's referring to and I'd ask that she just come out with it. For now anyway, this is between you and her, whatever it is. Until you know what she's talking about, you have no idea what this is. Why let it eat you up when you should expect her to be as honest with you as she expected you to be with her? In talking to her, I wouldn't let on to her that I at all suspected her question regarded that night, if it's not about that night, she'll think you did something wrong that night, and if it is, she'll not believe you insisting you don't know. You have to hear it before you know whether this is any big deal or not.







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Registered: 12-31-2004
In reply to: x0inlove0x
Sat, 10-21-2006 - 9:38am

You need to tell your MIL to grow up and stop playing games: if she's got something to say, spit it out. Otherwise, keep her gossiping crap to herself.

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Registered: 05-14-2006
In reply to: x0inlove0x
Sat, 10-21-2006 - 5:30pm

If nothing happened tell your husband after 3 babies in 5 years you got drunk and blew off some steam....you probably made a fool of yourself but that is what drunks do.

 

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: x0inlove0x
Sat, 10-21-2006 - 5:47pm

Can you ask your friends what they think happened that you don't remember?

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