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Mariage counseling?
| Sat, 10-21-2006 - 9:56am |
DH and I are both miserable together. Honestly, if it weren't for Catherine, we probably wouldn't be together anymore. I love Catherine to death, but if I would have known that DH and I would have trouble like this, I wouldn't have tried for a baby. We were doing fine before she came along, but having a baby adds a lot of stress and extra responsibilities.
Anyway, I would like to know if any of you have been through mariage counseling. What happens during those sessions? Did it help? DH and I really need to learn how to communicate when there is a conflict. This can't go on.





I think marriage counseling is a wonderful way to figure out what the problems are and try to solve them.
I went to marriage counseling with my X wife and couples counseling with another serious gf.
Hello,
One Christmas my H embarrassed the crap out of me in front of his mom. So much that I didn't speak to him for the next five days untill I told him that his mom was watching our kids and we had a counseling appointment.
It has been almost two years since we have had a fight like that one. We still have our share of issues, but goint to counseling helped us work through that problem. Counseling may not solve all your problems but afterwards it may give you the tools you need to work on the rest.
Pirates
You're right, a baby and the added responsibilities they bring really raise the stress level. So much for your "carefree" days of just picking up and doing whatever you want! Having a baby puts a real strain on relationships, even quite strong relationships can find themselves struggling. Seeing a counselor is the smartest thing you can do to get through the rough spot; like you've already been told, it'll not only help you work through your problems, but it'll give you great tools that you'll use for the rest of your lives.
The first thing you have to be sure of is your therapist/counselor's credentials. It's very important that the person you and your husband see is accredited in a field of couples counseling. Some individual counselors/therapists offer couples counseling as a "service", but counseling couples is vastly different than counseling individuals and without that specialized training, the therapist often winds up doing more harm to the very relationship they're trying to help; so be sure to ask.
There are a couple of articles that answer the questions you ask (and the articles are there because the questions are common and understandable!):
What to Expect in Your 1st Therapy Appt.Will Couples Counseling Help?
There are also some articles/information on constructive arguing, and since this information came to me straight from therapists, they're "therapist approved!":
Ten Rules For Fair FightingVerbal Fencing With Someone You Love
Dos and Don'ts For Fair Fighting
Conflicts - Points to Remember
You're doing the right thing to assure that your problems and conflicts won't continue. Good for both of you for committing to go!
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