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| Sat, 10-21-2006 - 7:56pm |
New here, but looking for some ideas...
I've been married for five years now. We have two kids 6 and 3. My husband works a 2pm-2am shift and I work around his schedule. I have since got a promotion so I am now able to schedule around him better to be home when he is home. I just feel like I'm stuck in the same routine of work, home, kids, work, home, kids. It is starting to drain on me. Sometimes, not always I feel trapped. Don't get me wrong my family means the world to me, but I'm still young and feel like I'm missing out. So for those that have been married or in a long realationship, what suggestions do you have to keep the ball rolling. I don't feel we need counsiling but just some ideas if you know what I mean. I would just like to get those butterflies back in my tummy when he used to call me, or when we kiss.
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I guess I'd have to say that I don't know that you can get those butterfly feelings back, to me, they're something that happens in the beginning of a relationship, when you're still in the "chemical reaction" stage of the game. By now you'd be long over those feelings. I will say that those chemical feelings are really great, but not having them indicates your relationship has moved on to much higher levels, which is a good thing.
I do think it's important to get time to yourself, and yes, if you don't, doing the same old routine day in and day out gets very draining. Going out with friends, having outside activities some evenings and weekends is important in staying fresh and in giving you time for you, having a life outside your home and family is important and necessary. It's also important to stay connected to your husband, and for that, there's no substitute for getting out and doing things together without the kids; whether that's dates, walks, going to an event or exhibit, whatever interests you and gets you out together is a good thing. If getting babysitters is a problem, form an agreement with a friend or the parents of one of your kids' friends, you watch their kids sometimes and they watch yours others. If you can swing it, it's great to get an occasional weekend away too (with your husband as well as with girlfriends). There are a couple articles in out Information and Resources section that might be helpful to you:
Making Your Marriage an AdventureHow to Keep Your Relationship Strong
Steer Clear of Relationship Potholes
The 7-Year Itch
10 Marriage MistakesI hope at least some of this helps ~
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