Moved in together/overwhelmed!
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Moved in together/overwhelmed!
| Tue, 10-24-2006 - 12:15pm |
Okay, so I wrote a few weeks ago about being scared to move in with my sweetie. But, last week we moved in together and we have started our lives together. However, some feelings have begun to surface that have scared me to death! First of all, I am feeling overwhelmed with this whole living together thing...I LOVE living with him....but I am terrified that if something doesn't work out, I will have to struggle to pay the rent with our one year lease (simply because my dad is the co-signer). So anyway...I go through this thing everyday.....in the mornings I wake up and I'm by myself (he sleeps later than I do) and while I'm watching television, I start to think about what I could be missing out on and what I could be doing if we weren't together. But then he wakes up and I feel different. I'm glad to spend my days with him and we enjoy each other's company. I just think that sometimes we are spending too much time together. He started his new job last week but has only worked once....
I am soooo confused! I am also scared that he is going to propose sooner than I want. I am only 19-he is 26. We have both talked about getting married and getting engaged and as much as I want that, I don't want it right now. I want to live my life and enjoy things and I don't want to rush into marriage.
What should I do? I don't want to break up with him by any means because I know I would regret that. I love this man and he still makes me heart flutter. I just get overwhelmed and I sometimes feel like it's moving too quickly. HELP ME PLEASE!
I am soooo confused! I am also scared that he is going to propose sooner than I want. I am only 19-he is 26. We have both talked about getting married and getting engaged and as much as I want that, I don't want it right now. I want to live my life and enjoy things and I don't want to rush into marriage.
What should I do? I don't want to break up with him by any means because I know I would regret that. I love this man and he still makes me heart flutter. I just get overwhelmed and I sometimes feel like it's moving too quickly. HELP ME PLEASE!

Hi Singertaryn ~
I'm peeking in from work, saw your post and noticed that you said you were here a few weeks ago, posting about fear of moving in with your boyfriend.
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
she posted on the 'Ask the Relationship Saver' board
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlrelationsh/?msg=26916.1
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlrelationsh/?msg=26916.5
Without having read her previous posts, I'd say if you're ambivalent about moving in, you're ambivalent for a reason; if it's the right thing for you to be doing, you wouldn't feel hesitation. Going ahead and putting yourself in a situation that you don't feel good about will most certainly lead to feelings of concern and being overwhelmed.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"