You're totally right. I need a new job. I actually do like dealing with people- it's a very fun job, but I'm taxed to the max.
I was reading on this other board about anger and aggression- they were saying if you're angry, sometimes you'll spout off at the people closest to you because you know they'll take it, but you're really mad at someone else. That's kind of what's happenign at work right now. There's this new really mean uptight guy who's not doing so well and he does things in his power to keep me back. I get really angry at my fiance when I'm explaining my problem with the guy and my fiance is supposed to fix it- it's his dept. But I'm really so angry at that guy- of course I can't yell at anyone else.
Welcome back Velvetminxx ~ I recognized you as soon as I peeked in on the board. I'm at work and not able to reply to your post as I'd like until after, but I wanted to provide the link to your previous post as soon as I could so that others who might be able to get to your post before I do can get a better feel for your situation and history and as a result be better able to offer thoughts and suggestions that fit your actual situation and can be more helpful to you.
You might read through your old post too, many find reading their old posts very helpful and enlightening; they're able to see situations more clearly than they could when they were in the middle of them and are able to see improvement, or lack of, in their situations. I hope you find it as enlightening as many do:
Plus I forgot for the first few months I was dating that last guy that I was "under wraps". I think it was because at the time I was 23 and he was 37. He turned out to be an alright guy, just not for me in the end.
Velvet, is your angry, inappropriate behavior at work a one-time thing or a consistent pattern of behavior? In your first post it sounded like this was a pattern, but in your last, you seem to be saying, "It was a bad day, it's better today, so, no problem!" What's the situation? And if it's a pattern, what does your fiance say about it? I can't imagine he's just fine with being torn apart by an employee at work, and even if it doesn't show, it has to affect the way he sees and feels about you.
I also think the secrecy thing is worth taking a look at.
~ cl-2nd_life
"You can't control the length of your life, but you can control the width and depth." ~ Author unknown
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you need to find another job where you're not working with the public since you have such a deep contempt for customers.
Not to mention that you need a new job where you cannot talk to your boss the way you do your present one and expect to keep your job.
You're totally right. I need a new job. I actually do like dealing with people- it's a very fun job, but I'm taxed to the max.
I was reading on this other board about anger and aggression- they were saying if you're angry, sometimes you'll spout off at the people closest to you because you know they'll take it, but you're really mad at someone else. That's kind of what's happenign at work right now. There's this new really mean uptight guy who's not doing so well and he does things in his power to keep me back. I get really angry at my fiance when I'm explaining my problem with the guy and my fiance is supposed to fix it- it's his dept. But I'm really so angry at that guy- of course I can't yell at anyone else.
I really shouldn't be yelling at anyone.
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You definitely need to find another job.
You might read through your old post too, many find reading their old posts very helpful and enlightening; they're able to see situations more clearly than they could when they were in the middle of them and are able to see improvement, or lack of, in their situations. I hope you find it as enlightening as many do:
Closet Girlfriend
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
is this guy the same rich guy you were previously dating?
Shouldn't be. That guy was almost 2 years ago and she said she'd been dating this guy for not quite a year.
Jen
Edited 10/31/2006 9:10 am ET by velvetminxx
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Plus I forgot for the first few months I was dating that last guy that I was "under wraps". I think it was because at the time I was 23 and he was 37. He turned out to be an alright guy, just not for me in the end.
HeeHee- I'm always so SCANDALOUS!!!
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I also think the secrecy thing is worth taking a look at.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
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