Is he falling out of love?

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Is he falling out of love?
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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 2:57pm
My DH and I have been married for 1 1/2 years, and we have a blended family. I have two kids I brought into the relaitonship, we have one together and he has 2 kids that he never sees. Our marriage and realationship can appear to be a match made in heaven, but we have had our fair share of problems just like everyone else. He is the most romsntic guy I have ever known. But for the past 7-9 months it's gone. He'll try if I mention that there isnt any lately, but then its just not as good because I feel like I forced it out of him. As far as sex goes we NEVER lack in the department, and now it seems to me that sex is all he wants from me. Either he talks abour work, we have sex or we argue about the kids or something stupid. Maybe I have set me expectations to high, but if you're used to something that you love and then its gone, how are you supposed to feel.. WHenever I mention it to him he says that his mind is just busy on work and child support or other stresses. What do I do?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 9:36pm
Welcome to the board, Leahmomof2 ~


A question/comment for your consideration first:

You said whenever you mention the problem to him he says that his mind is busy on work and child support or other stresses. Has his work load increased? Has there been a change that's affected his child support issues? Have other stresses been added to his load? If any or all of these things have changed, what is he doing about them to resolve them and/or to relieve his stress? Because, if things have become more stressful and stayed more stressful for the last 7-9 months, it seems to me that not only for your relationship's sake, but for his health and well-being as well as the health of your family it's past time to take a look at what's causing the stress and either make changes to relieve it or make changes in the way he deals with it so that he's not stressed. 7-9 months of behavior change isn't "dealing" anymore, it's become a habit, know what I mean? What do you think?







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