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| Mon, 11-06-2006 - 2:15pm |
well most of you have kept up with me and my problems with my husband.well once again we got in a rut b.c of stupid little girls.well what had happened was there was this female friend of his and they was talking alot on the phone and the internet.so i went thru his phone and got her number.well i talked to her a few days and he found out i went in his phone and got her number.needless to say.he wasnt to thrilled about it.well we both discussed it and i thought everything was fine.but then here comes friday.he isnt home yet so i called him to see where he was.well he tells me hes @ the movie theather with that girl and her friends.i asked him when he would be home and he said he didnt know.then i asked him why he couldnt of called me and tell me where he was..the answer was.."i'm a grown man and i dont have to tell you"so once again i went a bit further and asked him why he was doing this and as i kept asking him questions he goes on and tells me he's not sure he cares for me anymore.so i left and spent the night with a friend. i called him the next day and told him that i wanted to talk face to face and be adults about this.and he said that no he didnt want to talk that it was over.
well after thinking about this i had become suicidel(yes im getting help -went and seen a therepist)well my dad had found me laying in the floor and he had to call the ambulence for me. i spent a fe hours in the hospital and my dad showed up.he told me that david refused to come up there.well today me and my dad went to a therepist and anyways on the way home he told me more about what david said.he told him what i have done and david asked why did i do that and my dad was telling him to think about it.my dad said no one in their right mind would put up with the crap that you deal out to my daughter.he said david just went all quiet on him.so i think there was more said then my dad is telling me.hes more than likely trying to protect me.
but for some messed up reason i want to be with david.we've had some great times and i know this could work if we tried..but im also getting tired of wanting to try with him.i dont know where he stands or anything.as of right now i dont even want to talk to david or see him till i get my stuff together.but what do you think this is all about??
thanks..

Welcome back,
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
I'm glad you're getting some help dealing with this, your situation isn't healthy and staying in it won't do anything but have it (and you) get worse.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
I agree with 2nd life. Stay away from David and try to work YOUR issues out with your therapist. Mind you, I'm not saying that David's behavior is your fault - only that there are reasons why you would WANT (as you say "for some messed up reason") to stay with him. The best thing you can do is find out what that "messed up reason" is, and then fix it!
That fact that you were feeling like killing yourself over this is an indication that something - probably LOTS of things - are very, very wrong. Since there is no way that you can control David, and no way for you to get him to change, the thing you need to focus on is yourself - where you have ALL the control!. Long term therapy is your only hope. Once you are healthy, you will be able to see that a man who does the things you describe is not worth your time. Wanting to stay with him is like wanting to repeatedly put your hand on a hot stove. It's the kind of behavior that needs to be professionally addressed. It won't be easy, and it won't be fast, but it can change your life for the better.
It sounds as though you have a supportive father. Let him and the therapist help you to pull yourself out of this hole you have dug for yourself.
LRM.