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Unfriendly friend...
| Sat, 11-11-2006 - 8:30pm |
My boyfriend and I have been dating happily for a year and a half, recently he had a female friend of his tell him that she doesn't like me, that I make her uncomfortable and that she can't be around me in social situations. I have felt from the beginning of our relationship some tension between this friend and I, but could never place it. I have tried to be friendly with her, but she apparantly made up her mind about me a long time ago. The problem is, other than she can't apparantly be in the same room as me, is that she told my boyfriend, she's willing not to be friends with him, in order to avoid me. I told my boyfriend that I would do whatever he wanted me to do about the situation, although I'm really hurt by the whole thing, I don't want to be the type of girlfriend who says who he can and can't hang out with, but the fact of the matter is, if he does choose to hang out with this girl, I feel like she's won some sort of battle I didn't know we were fighting. What do I do?

If it's simply a matter of her not liking you, why doesn't she just choose to see your boyfriend when he's not with you? Nothing says your friends have to like your partners, her relationship is with him, not you. There's no reason for you to say who he can and cannot hang out with, nor is it appropriate. This isn't a battle, and if you just put it in her court, you'll look like the bigger person, the one who is not threatened, she'll look petty and whiney.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
If I was your bf, and a friend of mine said that about my SO that I loved, I'd tell the friend "ok, if you don't want to be friends because of my SO, that is your choice."
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"