Update on attractiveness issue

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Update on attractiveness issue
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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 5:09pm
I posted a couple of weeks ago about an issue with not being attracted to my boyfriend. I was worried that I wouldn't become attracted to him over time and that it would ruin the relationship. Well, I think that as I'm getting to know him better, things are getting easier. I don't think I'll ever think that he's gorgeous or anything, but I'm at least getting used to the way that he looks. The relationship is going pretty well, and I'm happy with his personality and the way that he treats me. So I think I'm going to continue with it. Thanks, everyone, for all your advice and support! :-)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 9:34pm
For those who want a refresher on Lovelystar's previous post, you can find it here:


Just not attracted to him - please help!


Great to hear, Lovelystar! I hope things continue to work out for you!







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Registered: 06-06-2006
Fri, 11-17-2006 - 10:58am
What i absolutely dont understand here is why a 22year old THIN girl would force herself into *dating* someone overweight and balding?? (balding with 28?) Someone whose looks she has to get USED to?? Where is the urge at this age??? Girl believe me when i say, that drama you can also have 10 years later! Why dont you just enjoy your young life instead and date the ones you WOULD call *gorgeous*?? If not now, then when?
Rocklady
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Registered: 03-24-2003
Fri, 11-17-2006 - 11:43am


I absolutely agree. If she was 35+ and overweight and not particularly attractive herself I could juuuuust about half-way understand her decision. I too fail to see why in God's name she feels that at 22!!! years of age and being slim and attractive she feels that she needs to force herself to be with someone without fancying them at all. 'Used to his looks' to me means 'settled for unattractive and physically replulsive because I must'. I just don't see why she feels she must!! Exactly like Rocklady says, 22 is the age to date, to sample, to experience, to discover, to be with men who you are WILD AND MAD AND NUTS about and whom you find THE MOST GORGEOUS because time for settling for fat and balding and unnattractive may/will, sadly, come later. Indeed, if not at 22, then when???

PS: re: balding at 28 - good point RL - balding at 28 means compeltely bold in 10 years time so.. OP, you have been warned...