I love him but the sex is not good
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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 2:07pm |
Hello--
I have been married for 15 years, we have two boys. The marriage is good, we are close emotionally and have fun together. We have a strong romantic connection. But the sex, which was never great, got even worse after our second was born four years ago. Sex is absolutely the last priority on his list, very much a chore, drugery, like any other chore. This has made me very unhappy. I not only want more sex -- and GOOD, sexy sex, not just ho-hum -- I want and need to feel desired.
We have been going to an actual sex therapist but things have not really turned around. I am SO depressed over this. I absolutely cannot imagine getting divorced because our sex life is not good (and almost non-existent) but I can't imagine staying in this for the rest of my life, either.
He has no physical problems, has been checked out. Sex just isn't that important to him and it never was.
Sometimes the thought, "Our marriage is a sham" pops into my head and makes me feel miserable. It's not a sham, not at all, there is a lot that is strong and good. But I just don't think I can do this forever.

Hi legg2006,
Wanting and needing a good physical relationship with your husband isn't trivial or unimportant; if it was unimportant, you two wouldn't be having a problem, right?
I have some questions:,/p>
Thanks in advance for your answers ~ !
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