i dont know wht he means....?? pls help
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i dont know wht he means....?? pls help
| Tue, 11-21-2006 - 11:58am |
my boyfriend said the other day tht "honey will u do me a favor, pls put on some weight..u'll look good" . the problem is tht he himself is 6 fet 2 inches tall and a little over weight and iam 5 feet 6 inches tall and a skinny. He says tht we will balance out as a couple if i gain some pounds (btw i have no tendency and have always been thin 110 lbs)..i wonder if he's being honest wid me or just NOT ATTRACTED TO ME..pls help

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It could also be that he's worried for your health - because you are significantly underweight.
However, I also understand that some of us can't put weight on till we're older (35+) and if you're one of these people, there's nothing you can do anyway. My own daughter will probably be in the same situation as you when she's older. She's so skinny that I have to alter all her clothes to fit!
In short, if you can't put weight on, explain this to your boyfriend. But if you can put weight on, another 10-15lbs would see you at a far healthier BMI.
I'm not pointing fingers or suspecting anything, but these things are important for me to rule out before giving you an answer.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
>>i guess its to shut me up so tht i dont get after him to loose some..<<
I think that's a very good guess! I bet he's letting you know how it feels to be on the receiving end of advice.
You have every right not to be happy with a guy who's weight isn't where you feel it should be, you can't expect someone to change their weight for you, or appreciate being told their overweight (or underweight). If the guy who's right for you is someone who's fit and trim, your guy isn't the one for you because he's not. Same with your boyfriend - if he wants a girl who's got more meat on her bones, that's his own personal preference and he's entitled to have it, but if that's the case you're not the girl for him. In other words, if you can't accept him as he is, moving on to someone else is what you'll need to do. Losing or gaining is something a person can only do for themselves; if they aren't determined, dedicated and motivated to do it for themselves, it's not going to happen. Being told you need to lose/gain weight won't make a difference. The desire has to come from him.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
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