His friend interfering with relationship
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| Fri, 12-08-2006 - 5:06am |
I have been with my bf for almost two years now and we love each other a lot. We started getting into little fights over nothing when he had to move away 4 months ago. I still see him every weekend but competing with me for his attention is my bf’s friends. I really enjoy their company, and thought we could all hang out together to ‘share’ him. But one of his friends has always been a little difficult to handle. More so lately with our fights this friend has been trying to manipulate us into breaking up, or provoking our fights further. I have tried really hard, for my bf’s sake, to be nice and act civil towards this friend, but as his attitude and derogatory terms continue in a destructive spiral downwards and I am starting to lose patience. I know it’s not fair to make my bf choose between us, but it really feels like his friend will be the end of us, telling me things such as I am just a dumb bitch who only ruins good times and all of them just want me out of their lives forever. I am assured by other friends of my bf that they really like me and just to ignore this one friend and my bf has told him not to speak to me like this, but it never seems to end! What should I do? What can I do? I just want my bf to realize his friend is a jerk and stop being friends with him… is this irrational of me? PLEASE HELP!
-BLUEberrybit

Hi blueberry
Unfortunately, this is a situation over which you have very little control.
How do you know what this friend is saying about you? Does he say them to you, do you hear them from friends, from your boyfriend, or what? I assume he's saying these things to your boyfriend, right?
~ cl-2nd_life
"Experience is what you get
When you don't get what you want"
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"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
<3 Blueberry bit
~ cl-2nd_life
"Experience is what you get
When you don't get what you want"
~ Author unknown
Edited 12/12/2006 3:40 am ET by cl-2nd_life
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"