I Am So Ticked Off!!!!
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I Am So Ticked Off!!!!
| Wed, 12-13-2006 - 6:17pm |
I am so angry I could scream. My MIL lives all by herself about 1/2 hour
from our home. My DH is the only child living in the same state, so we
try to do what we can. Anyway he wanted our daughter to go to her house
after school and help her decorate her tree. Our DD goes to school quite
close so it was no problem for her to get there after school. He said he would
pick her up when he got home from work. He never even called his mother to
confirm this and our daughter was on her way there when he called and she was not
home. Thankfully by the time she got there my MIL was home, but of course it
was my fault for not calling her. Now he just calls me from work to tell
me to pick her up because he is going somewhere. Mind you, somewhere not
important. I already had to take our son somewhere for 2 1/2 hours, needed
to cook dinnet, etc. etc. and I was pretty angry about having to pick her up and
I voiced that to him. His response was "poor you". I am so pissed off right now
because I don't get a minute to myself. He goes to the gym two nights a week and
does his own personal work on the weekends which brings him away from the home.
Basically it's just one more added thing to do to my list of a million, while
his only household "responsibility" is to take out the trash two nights a week
which he has recently delegated to my son. ARGHHHHHH, my blood is boiling right now. Thanks for letting me vent.
from our home. My DH is the only child living in the same state, so we
try to do what we can. Anyway he wanted our daughter to go to her house
after school and help her decorate her tree. Our DD goes to school quite
close so it was no problem for her to get there after school. He said he would
pick her up when he got home from work. He never even called his mother to
confirm this and our daughter was on her way there when he called and she was not
home. Thankfully by the time she got there my MIL was home, but of course it
was my fault for not calling her. Now he just calls me from work to tell
me to pick her up because he is going somewhere. Mind you, somewhere not
important. I already had to take our son somewhere for 2 1/2 hours, needed
to cook dinnet, etc. etc. and I was pretty angry about having to pick her up and
I voiced that to him. His response was "poor you". I am so pissed off right now
because I don't get a minute to myself. He goes to the gym two nights a week and
does his own personal work on the weekends which brings him away from the home.
Basically it's just one more added thing to do to my list of a million, while
his only household "responsibility" is to take out the trash two nights a week
which he has recently delegated to my son. ARGHHHHHH, my blood is boiling right now. Thanks for letting me vent.

You might read through your old posts too, many find reading their old posts very helpful and enlightening; they're able to see situations more clearly than they could when they were in the middle of them and are able to see improvement, or lack of, in their situations. I hope you find it as enlightening as many do:
Need to Know If I am WrongRE: "Am I wrong" - Just Want to Vent
~ cl-2nd_life
"Experience is what you get
When you don't get what you want"
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
I completely understand your anger, your frustration and your feeling of being overwhelmed while he does what he wants, at his convenience. But, you know that's how it is with him and you know it's not going to change. Yes, if your marriage were a partnership you would have equal consideration, appreciation and work equally to keep your home family, finances and home running smoothly. But you don't have a partnership, you have a dictatorship. He's the emperor, you're the slave. It doesn't matter how much needs to be done, you're expected to do it all, and as far as he's concerned, you shouldn't complain about it.
Is this right? No. Is it a good environment for your children to grow up in? No. Is it a good place for you to be? No.
A few charts for you to look at:
Rship Components - Healthy & UnhealthyIs Your Relationship Healthy?
You should consider posting on the Dealing With Domestic Abuse board too, you'll find an understanding and supportive group who what you're dealing with because they have been or are there too.
I know your post was just a vent, Riat, but as long as you stay this is how it will be. What do you think?~ cl-2nd_life
"Experience is what you get
When you don't get what you want"
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"