How do I get my guy to listen?

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Registered: 12-15-2005
How do I get my guy to listen?
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Fri, 12-15-2006 - 5:04pm
How can I talk to my guy about my sexual health? It seems whenever I talk to him about my periods he says he feels icky and it's girl talk. I have to tell him that I can't get regulated it's why I bleed after sex. He knows this I've been seeing him for a year now. I've been to doctor before over this before we even had intercourse and got some BC but it is no working still bleeding and I gave the BC time. I told him this. I am not on bc now cause going to talk to doctor, but he won't wear a condom. How many times do I have to tell him the risk is too great? Gawd ballbat please. lol
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Registered: 12-15-2006
Fri, 12-15-2006 - 5:51pm
I'm sorry to hear of your troubles. My idea is simple: don't give him sex until he puts on the condom. It might cause tension, but he should give....hope this helps
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 12-15-2006 - 9:15pm
Since you are the one who will end up with the baby or the STD, you need to be more proactive, and take responsibility for yourself. He is putting his immediate needs ahead of your long-term ones, which is completely insensitive and irresponsible. It's your body--how do you want him to treat it?
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 9:27am
You don't have to keep explaining yourself -- just tell him you can't have sex until things get resolved.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-17-2006 - 2:21am

Welcome back Vixen1974 ~ I won't be able to post until tomorrow night, but I wanted to provide the links to your previous posts as soon as I could so that others who are replying to your post before I do can get a better idea of your relationship and as a result be better able to offer thoughts and suggestions that fit your actual situation and can be more helpful to you.

You might read through your old posts too, even though they may not have been posted that long ago, many find reading their old posts very helpful and enlightening; they're able to recognize situations more clearly. I hope you find it helpful too:

Manners when dining out

Career Stress
posted in April, with an update thread last week:

Hey I posted about this back in April and it's still a conflict with my guy...

And a reply in Iv_aisha's thread about men who don't plan outings and nice things:
Yeah kind of makes you feel like a toy doesn't it?...
I'm posting this because I think it's important to your situation)

I'll be back tomorrow night!







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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 1:06am
Vixen, if he's adult enough to being intimate with you he's adult enough to discuss your physical issues and status like an adult. You shouldn't have to convince him to wear a condom, he should be concerned for your condition, and respectful of your request. He should also be adult enough to be serious about his own health and the potential of pregnancy to take precautions himself.


Quite simply, if he won't wear a condom, there is no sex, period. It's his choice. But beyond that, I think you'd do well to consider these red flags that this is not a good or appropriate relationship to be in. You deserve to be treated better, none of this is acceptable.







~ cl-2nd_life

"Experience is what you get
When you don't get what you want"

~ Author unknown








"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"