I really like him but....

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I really like him but....
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Sun, 12-17-2006 - 5:19pm
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Edited 2/17/2007 10:55 pm ET by caliprynses
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Sun, 12-17-2006 - 9:58pm

Halitosis (bad breath) can have a number of causes. Your boyfriend should start by seeing a dentist and then a doctor to try and identify the cause. Mouthwash will briefly mask the smell, but it won't fix the problem. For more info see http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/Halitosis_or_bad_breath?OpenDocument

Regarding his personal hygiene, have you spoken to him about it? Have you told him that he smells and needs to shower more and use deodorant?

Sweating during make-out sessions is one thing that cannot be changed. Some guys just have very active sweat glands. Though I'm curious about you mentioning the make-out sessions being rare. Does he not complain?

Messy house = red flag. This is a sign of how he keeps himself. If you were to move in with him, guess who'd be doing all the tidying up?

I suggest that you look at these issues individually. Some can be fixed and some are instinctive to him.

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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 3:12am
My guess is that all these issues tie into the same problem - lack of cleanliness. He smells because he doesn't shower often enough (ew), sweat and smell is probably a problem during make out because he's starting out having old sweat and smell on his body to begin with, as well as likely dirty, smelly clothes, his breath is probably bad because he doesn't brush his teeth any more often than he showers. That, or he has dental issues that he chooses not to deal with and as a result has bad breath. His messy house is another pretty clear indicator that this is a way of life for him. Cleanliness of self and environment are not important to him. These wouldn't be changeable, he is who he is. Sure, he'd be able to clean up his act some for you for a while, but it would only be a matter of time until he slid back into his real self. If it were important to him, he'd be doing it already, and if he wanted to change, he wouldn't need you to tell him to do it.


Unless you can happily accept him as he is, a dirty, smelly, guy who doesn't care about cleaning up, I'd say this isn't the guy for you. Honestly, I don't know anyone who would consider a relationship with a guy like that.







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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 1:25pm
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Edited 2/17/2007 10:56 pm ET by caliprynses