b/f wants me to hookup with another guy
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| Mon, 01-01-2007 - 11:50pm |
Hi!
my boyfriend and i have been together for about 1 1/2 years. i've known him for 2 1/2 years, and he is my best friend. we are SO close, and during the first year of knowing each other when we weren't together, we liked each other a lot but he was too busy being single and trying to get other girls. we are each others first for sex, and he was my first for everything else. (except kissing!) i was his first for getting head and eating a girl out, but he had gotten with a lot of girls, just fooling around (going down their pants, getting hand jobs, and making out with a lot of girls) but before him, i had only kissed a few other guys, so i did not have as much experience as him. okay enough of that rambling and time to get to the point... my boyfriend has mentioned to me multiple times that he wants me to hookup with another guy (while we're together). he says he knows i am the one for him because he's been with a lot of girls and has had a lot of girlfriends and no one compares to me. but he knows i haven't been with a lot of guys and wants to make sure he's the one for me. he tells me that i may think he's the one, but thats only because i haven't been out there to experience what else is out there... and he wants me to so that he doesn't get hurt farther down the line. does this make any sense? i don't even want to imagine him hooking up with another girl, and now he's telling me to hookup with another guy! i don't get it... i understand his point but i don't think randomly hooking up with one guy is going to help me know that my boyfriend is the one. also, my boyfriend gets jealous of my guy friends (my boyfriend goes to college 1 1/2 hours away from where i live and go to high school, but we still do see each other a lot, but obviously we have other friends to hangout with when we're not in each others city's) so if he gets so jealous, why would he want me to hookup with someone else? he says he swears as long as i talk to him about it first and he gives me permission, he would not acuse me of cheating or ever give me crap about it if i decided to hookup with someone else because this is what he wants. can someone please explain this behavior? is there anything i'm missing? is he telling me to hookup with someone to give him a free pass to hookup with another girl? i know that is horrible to think about and i asked him this same question and he got so mad because he says that's not what he wants, but still, HELP!!!

Your boyfriend's got sex on the mind. I can't tell you what he's thinking, but I can tell you that he's not interested in how he measures up in an emotional relationship with you or he wouldn't be judging your happiness on sex.
~ cl-2nd_life
"Experience is what you get
When you don't get what you want"
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Personally, I think seeing other people at your age and while you're so far apart from each other makes perfect sense and is the most sensible way to approach a relationship.
~ cl-2nd_life
"Experience is what you get
When you don't get what you want"
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
~ cl-2nd_life
"Experience is what you get
When you don't get what you want"
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"