Should I be insulted??
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| Fri, 01-05-2007 - 11:37pm |
Please, any feedback on this.....
My boyfriend of 3 years (and more of a FWB situation) has forgotten my birthday this weekend. We work together, and the date has been brought up in conversation numerous times.
My question here is, has this happened to you....and how have you handled it? Have you brought it up to them after the fact, and what have you said to them?
Men--is this a common, no harm intended mistake that happens, and generally is not a "measurement" of the love you feel for your G/F, and/or W?
I am hurt...and the truth is, him just saying "Happy B-day" would of made me happy....I know this can be a delicate situation for men, (remembering important dates) and even more so, in a FWB situation. So, is me feeling sick to my stomach me overreacting, or a justifiable reaction??
Maggy

Sorry for the confusion.
Maggy
If he's only a FWB, then you need not be insulted. He owes you no more than your average female friend. And I'm sure that not all of your female friends phoned you or gave you a gift.
If you want your birthday remembered, find a REAL boyfriend.
If you want a guy who treats you like his girlfriend, you'll need to stop the FWB and get a real boyfriend.
~ cl-2nd_life
"Experience is what you get
When you don't get what you want"
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
I explained my situation as such (FWB) but, we are a couple in the sense we do have a romantic relationship. I did not realize this board was limited to couples in a typical relationship. There are other types of couples, and my intention was to get advice if this was a common theme along men, and how those who are involved in these situations deal with it. I perhaps should of left my particular situation out of it.....
Maggy, no one is criticising your relationship, we're trying to understand it in order to give appropriate advice. I think we may be misunderstanding your terminology.
As we generally understand it on this board, FWB (friend with benefits) is a companionable association between two people who enjoy each other's company and like to have sex together. There are no romantic feelings involved, and both understand that if one member of the association meets someone he or she views as a possible romance, the association is over, with no hard feelings on either side. A boyfriend/girlfriend, on the other hand, is a person with whom a romantic relationship may build toward a permanent and perhaps legal union in the future that could include having children together. A boyfriend and girlfriend may be having sex and may say that they love each other. There is an expectation of loyalty, fidelity, and loving concern for one another that does not necessarily hold true in a FWB association.
If you could explain more about your relationship (not less!), it would help us to better understand what the issues are. For example, how long have the two of you been together, and how old are you?
~ cl-2nd_life
"Experience is what you get
When you don't get what you want"
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"