My friend needs advice Please Help!!

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Registered: 11-24-2006
My friend needs advice Please Help!!
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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 2:00am
i have a boyfriend n we been together for a year and seven months and i lost my vriginity by him and i guess im in,love with him but i have a huge crush on this boy across the street from by sister house and we be hugged all up and kissing sometimes but not alot and i guess i don't have feeling for my boyfriend like i use too when we first meet . Sometimes i think he's cheating and he have did it twice but he appologize and i got over it and he buy me jewelry and stuff but i don't know what to do should i move on ? Please Help!!
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Registered: 03-22-2005
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 2:09am
Hey, Just wondering... how old are you?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 6:25am

I'm going to be brief and very blunt. Drop the boyfriend, leave the guy across the street alone for now, and consentrate on school - go back to school if you have already quit.

The first responder asked how old you are. I assume you are very young. You can't change the fact that you've already been sexually active, but, because you are young, you have the time, and hopefully the energy, to change your life. You need to focus on building a foundation for YOUR OWN life. To do that you need an education, goals, and a plan. Sex and boys are a distraction you don't need right now.

And here is the best piece of advice you will ever get: The more educated and independent you are, the more attractive you will be to the right kind of guys. Otherwise, you will be nothing more than a ditz who's an easy mark - and you will always be at a disadvantage in any relationship because you will have few, if any, choices. Dependency can never become equality.

LRM

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 6:46am

Ciara_sister_fan, having read your other posts on other boards, I can only come to the conclusion that you're all mixed up....not at all sure what you want out of boyfriends, sex and relationships.

Based on the text in your posts, I'm also going to assume that you're teenage. I think that you need to forget about boys and sex for the time being and concern yourself with school.

When you're older and have more life experiences, give it another shot :-) Life and boys will still be there when you've got emotional maturity to be able to deal with relationships and the hurdles in life.

Best of luck.

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 11:44am
Who is this problem about, you or a friend? You're writing as though it's you, but your title says "friend needs advice". Your identical post on the Virginity board has a title that doesn't mention a friend at all. Which is it?
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Registered: 11-24-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 8:35pm
my friend is 17 this is not my avice topic this is about my friend this is her problem.
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Registered: 11-24-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 8:38pm
Oh my friend is 17
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Registered: 11-24-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 8:40pm
This is my friend problem not mine she want to post this about whats happening in her life .
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 9:43pm
I'm glad you answered Lurkerdelux, I was going to ask the same thing.


Ciara, if your friend is looking for advice and help, she needs to post herself. Third party posts never work out well, the situation itself, as well as her thoughts and feelings can only be presented accurately by her.


Have her come over on her own and we'll be happy to help her.


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