That's it. There's no one left.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2003
That's it. There's no one left.
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Sat, 01-22-2005 - 7:56pm

I've been back online for about 2 1/2 months. I just browsed through pages and pages of profiles. Everyone falls into one of the following categories:



  1. Men who don't interest me at all

  2. Men with whom communication began but then they ghosted

  3. Men I contacted who ignored me

  4. Men I met but nothing materialized

And that's it. There's no one left.

 

 

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2004
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 8:17pm

It's like that ad, where the guy clicks on the web page that says "You have reached the end of the Internet." And there's nothing more for him to do.

Except, of course, start over. :)

I say take a break, go out in real life, and come back in a week or three or 6 and give it another whirl.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2004
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 8:32pm

Aren't those the categories where most of the men fall into anyway? LOL

The sad thing is, that if you switched sites, those same men would pop up. At least that has been my experience.

I agree with NGOL. Come back to it in a while and see if anyone new has signed on.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2003
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 8:35pm

Yes. Most people do fall into those categories but sometimes there's another one: New and intriguing profile that I haven't seen yet.


I am thinking of hiding my profile for awhile. We'll see.

 

 

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2004
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 9:26pm

>>New and intriguing profile that I haven't seen yet.<<

Now there's an endangered species! LOL

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 9:43pm

That's it!!! That explains the kid-in-a-candy-store effect!!

Think about it... all the lonely souls out there (and you know there's plenty) get so bored with the same old faces & boring profiles. So when a new face comes along, esp. with a great profile to go along with it... We all pounce!! They're so overwhelmed with the fantastic amount of attention they're getting and doesn't that explain it?

Then they talk with a whole bunch of them, maybe meet some of them, and except for those extreme rarities who actually hook up, they go back into the pool of lonely souls to start the whole thing all over again with humbled expectations.

I can just hear pianoguy warming up for a Beatles cover...

"Ahhh, look at all the lonely people..."

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Ahem. So, back to the original post, sorry to hear you're getting fed up again, but from what I gather it seems to be a fairly typical cycle. And you know you're in good company. If my latest doesn't work out, I may take a hiatus too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 10:01pm

My conclusion?

You're too normal for online dating....

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 12:43pm

There is one other solution...

...move to a new city and start in on the new residents there.

Fortunately, through the miracle of OLD, you don't even have to leave home before you move! You can "shop" online for them, and pick a place based on how many of the "intriguing" profiles you see! LOL

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2003
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 12:52pm
I don't know if anyone else has ever experienced this but I've often found that men who live outside of my geographical region seem to be a lot more attractive, interesting and intriguing than the men who live in my city. .

 

 

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 1:15pm
Same theory as the married people being much more attractive. Seems what can't be had (realistically) is so much more attractive.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2005
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 5:37pm

OMG! YOU HAVE ME FREAKIN ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That comment about the "reaching the end of the internet" ad is hilarious!

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