Profile help...

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2003
Profile help...
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Sun, 01-23-2005 - 5:19pm

Hiya!

I just updated my Match dating intro a little bit and am waiting for it to be approved. In my adjustments I included one bit near the end that stated, "I am not a serial dater who is interested in emailng and meeting bunches of guys that are addicted to the Match Candy Store. I'm just looking for that one special guy who can enrich my already full and happy life."

I also added the line, "PUH-LEEZEE be over your exes! :) "

These are the only two "negative" statements in there where I touch on those things that make me pissy about OLD sometimes. I know how much of a turn off it can be to read those profiles where folks talk about how they don't want or like this, don't want or like that, and really don't want to deal with xxxxx. Do you think I should have not mentioned these thwo things at all? I don't know if I will take them out or not, because dammit!! I can't stand the whole BBD thing...BUT I am so not a negative person and would not want to give that impression, either. Ack.

(I MAY post my profile name here once everything gets approved, but I am not sure I can take the well-intentioned advice if you all think my profile sucks. Bleh.)

Thanks for your thoughts...
~XRG

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 5:40pm

Here's a good profile example (admittedly wordy and not for everyone) that pretty slickly works in your concepts (the last paragraph or so is what you should look at). Grab some of what you like and chuck the rest:


I am a very energetic, independent woman who is passionate about my children (ages 13 and 11), profession, friends, sports/activities and life. I truly enjoy what I do and who I am. I live each day to the fullest. I am always open to trying new adventures and like to challenge myself. I enjoy meeting new people and making friends. I guess you'll have to decide but, I think I am easy to get to know, have a good sense of humor, friendly, a true cheerleader at heart, out-going, assertive, sensitive, compassionate, passionate, loyal and optimistic. As much as I enjoy being active and on the go, I also desire those relaxed, quiet, cuddling, cozy times when just being together in eachothers presence is all fulfilling.

My perception about an ideal relationship would include physical attraction/chemistry, trust, friendship, sports/activity and communication. We would maintain our independence but create interdependence because of a genuine desire to be with one another. An ideal relationship makes me strive to want to be a better person feeling alive and vibrant. I have learned a lot about myself from past relationships. I have learned that it is important to be honest about who I am and what I want. Open communication, affection, play and recreation is very important to me. Remain available to one another, maintain mutual respect and understand the importance of prioritizing the relationship. We must be able to maintain individuality but also possess an insatiable passion to build a life together. I am interested in meeting someone who has similar characteristics and a "go-for-it" outlook on life. I will enjoy someone who makes time to work and time to play, knows the commitments and demands involved with having children, doesn't want or need a high maintenance relationship and, who is a man of his word and honor. I am interested in someone who is not currently in a relationship or in the process of getting out of a relationship....he should be free and able to date. Since my children are involved, I am not interested in playing any dating games. I have a wonderful, healthy co-parenting relationship with my children's father who we see quite often due to the children's activities. My match should feel comfortable with this co-parenting arrangement appreciating it for its value in the life of my children rather than a complication or threat. Time is a factor, so a common geographical location is a plus


iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2003
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 6:59pm

I knew I could count on you, LG!! Thanks!

I actually took the boldfaced line you posted and put it in there...removing the words I had in my OP. Goodness, how many changes can I make for Match to keep up with? I would have liked to actually take her whole profile (minus the kid stuff since I don't have any) and used it, but that would be unfair and full of bad karma.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 7:31pm

She'll never know if you borrow the whole thing.

That profile is from the first "no picture" person who wrote to me. When she posted her photo she was stunning. A little bit of an exception to the "no picture for a reason" rule.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 7:33pm
Go ahead - be brave and post your Match ID.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2003
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 8:00pm

When I get the ok from Match that my recent updates have been aproved then MAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYBEEEEEEE I will. Maybe. ;) ;)

Of course, I am interested to see if they catch my line about my "account expiring so you'll need to tell me how to contact you without alerting the powers-that-be"!