Getting to the phone number stage....

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Registered: 01-23-2005
Getting to the phone number stage....
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Sun, 01-23-2005 - 5:44pm

Okay, someone asked for my phone number from YP personals last week, and I gave it on Saturday morning, and he has not called yet. What is the appropriate amount of time for me to allow this guy to call before I move on and completely delete all the emails and contact with him?

Doesn't "no contact" over the weekend sort of signal that perhaps IRL he already has a girlfriend? But then WHY ask for my number????

WHY wouldn't someone call over the weekend? Could it also maybe be that it is an inappropriate move? I mean, what if I had had someone over or was seeing someone myself, correct?

QUESTION: IS THERE A "PROPER ETIQUETTE" BOARD OR ARTICLE FOR INTERNET DATING SERVICES!?

ALSO, WHY does this next step automatically result in my getting completely paranoid and nervous about him not actually calling and taking that next step? It's like I'm thinking that it's a way to cease emailing - ask for my number, then never call, equals end of contact. ****Has that ever happened to anyone????****

Thanks!

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 5:46pm
A better question is who hasn't it happened to. I provided mine before the weekend. If it doesn't get used I figure the email exchanges are going to end. So what. That's online dating. Don't give it more importance than it should carry. The word "NEXT" needs to be an integral part of your online vocabulary.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 6:23pm

Maybe he doesn't have a computer at home so hasn't read your email yet. It doesn't necessarily mean he has a gf. Or he could be out of town this weekend. You just don't know. Did you give him a couple good times to call you?

I always assume that each contact with someone new is going to be my last, so I don't set a time limit for how long they can call...I send off my little messages in a bottle, so to speak, and just move on mentally. If they call or email back, great; if not, no biggie, they obviously aren't right for me.

This the best board I've found for advice about OLD...but the people who really NEED the advice aren't on here ;-).

Sheri