Clueless question re: first meeting

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Clueless question re: first meeting
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Tue, 01-25-2005 - 7:42pm

I've had a variety of responses from OLD. From nothing to an wink, a few emails, then ... well, lets just say I've figured out what "ghosting" is. Anyway, there is one guy with whom I've emailed back & forth, had a couple of telephone conversations and now we are meeting in person for coffee this week. He seems nice enough and we've had good conversations so far. So we'll see.

Now, since this is the first guy I'm meeting from OLD I'm wondering what to do when I meet him face to face for the first time. Would you give him a quick kiss, kiss on the cheek, hug, handshake, hello, or just hang back and see what he does?

I'm not too sure why I'm hung up on this little detail but I just feel so clueless.

Thanks, N

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Tue, 01-25-2005 - 8:20pm

I think that a friendly handshake and a smile would be quite appropriate. Of course, this is partly contingent upon what he does, anyway.

Enjoy.. I'm sure you'll continue to find things to talk about. :-)

glimmer

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Tue, 01-25-2005 - 8:49pm
Consensus seems to be you treat it as a meeting and physical contact isn't required beyond a handshake. In no instance should the contact be under the bra. I think over is ok though depending on how long you've emailed and whether you've talked on the phone.
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Registered: 12-11-2004
Tue, 01-25-2005 - 8:55pm
I've had a handshake on some occasions, and no contact at all upon first meeting, on other occasions.
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 01-25-2005 - 9:29pm

>>In no instance should the contact be under the bra. I think over is ok though depending on how long you've emailed and whether you've talked on the phone.<<

LMAO!!! LG, have you've been stuck in the house with the kids? You're getting to be quite the character!

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 01-25-2005 - 9:32pm
A handshake is always appropriate, which is pretty much what I've encountered as a greeting.
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Registered: 01-20-2005
Tue, 01-25-2005 - 9:47pm

Thanks for the help!

That's what is so great about this place - I can ask this embarrassing question that I couldn't ask in person.

Note to self: handshake good, bra contact bad. (better not get those two confused!)

-N

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Registered: 07-31-2004
Tue, 01-25-2005 - 10:03pm

Dang! I been doing it wrong all along........no wonder!

Lisa

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 01-25-2005 - 11:06pm
I did handshakes most occassions, too, but I think a quick, friendly light hug is acceptable, too. (if the guy is cute, go for it!!) The guy I'm dating right now gave me a big hug when I first met him, when I was about to give him a handshake. Ever since, I've been hooked.. :)
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Wed, 01-26-2005 - 1:56am

I think it would also depend on how much talking/emailing/phoning you've done so far, and how close to him you feel.

In NO situation, though, would it be good to walk up to him and do the Anna Nicole Smith self-grope-molestation thing while saying "dooo yoooo liiike my bodddy?"

Unless, you know, you're into that sort of thing. LOL

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 01-26-2005 - 1:12pm
in all 5 dates I had I felt a kiss was expected. I guess it also depends on the culture. In French culture is more common for a woman to be kissed on cheek by a complete stranger when they are introduced first time. So all meeting I had to let my cheek be kissed by people I would not normally want them to!! Arg!!!

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