No point in trying to understand but...
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No point in trying to understand but...
| Wed, 01-26-2005 - 7:09pm |
I know there's no point in trying to understand the strange behaviour of some online daters but still....
I'm trying to figure out why some guy - who contacted me and then ghosted - keeps looking at my profile over and over again.

I wouldn't want to speculate.
I think you're confusing the two issues. The reasons he ghosted and the reasons he looks at your profile are almost certainly two different things.
The reason he keeps looking at your profile is because you're attractive and he likes to look at it.
The reason he ghosted... well, that could be anything, so like LG I won't speculate.
But I think that you're figuring "hey, dude, if you wanted to look at me you could've gone out with me but you ghosted".
I believe that's a mistake. See, I think we figure when someone ghosts it's because *they don't like us* or something about us.
But what if they're ghosting for entirely different reasons? They're commitment-phobic and know that we might be a serious threat to that problem, or we remind them (in person) of their sibling, or any number of things.
Those reasons don't stop him from looking, though. In the end, I think you're overthinking it.
He looks at your profile because he likes looking at your profile. Pretty simple. :)
Perhaps he's running into the problem of not remembering your details and why he ghosted on you, so he opens your profile, reads and remembers, but then forgets again?
Who knows...but that is weird. I'm glad the services I use don't let me see who's viewed me.
Sheri
I like your answer best!