Didn't ask for a second date.... ??
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Didn't ask for a second date.... ??
| Thu, 01-27-2005 - 7:50am |
So I had a first date yseterday evening, and I am very new to OLD. The thing is, he didn't ask for a second date or to see me again at all.... But then, I got a nice email afterwards thanking me for the date. But again, no reference to future dates or get togethers or contact. Also, the email seemed very canned.
I thought we really hit it off on the date, but do you think that this is an indication that he didn't think the same way?
What should I reply to the email? Should I hint at future contact or another date? If I don't, will it just end?
What's been your experience with that?
THANKS!
Jayme

Well, my experience has been that a guy who's really interested will ask for a 2nd date while we're still on the first, or at least in the first contact shortly after the date (within a day). So, I wouldn't hold my breath on this guy if I were you, but you never know. I'd email him back and let him know you enjoyed meeting him and would enjoy getting together again. Then the ball's in his court.
Sheri
Hi all,
I agree with Sheri, I think you should leave the door open just in case. Although most of the guy friends I have tell me that they don't always ask for a second date on the first date, that it depends on their courage level more then their interest level. Also often we assume there is some unspoken protocol that some guys are just clueless about. If the date went as well as you said it did, im sure he will ask you out again, if not then its probably his issue, and you are better off. Good Luck :)
i have to disagree underscore because Ive had the experience of both. Some do ask while on the date - and some ask afterwards. Ive come to realize its about 50/50 chance. I thnk the guys that dont ask don't want to seem too eager and want to feel out you for the next date. So they'll ask within that next week.
Now if they dont ask within that next week, I'd just chalk it up to great first date, but nothing more.
Just write him back and thank him as well, tell him you had a good time, and say something along the lines of "Maybe we can get together again."
Here's the first meeting scenario. At least the one I follow.
I think the 2nd meeting is really the first "date", or at least going into the first meeting, that's how it should be looked upon.
I've had three instances while wrapping up the first meeting now where the girl said "sure, I'd like to go out with you again", even so far as planning when, only to never hear from her again.
Then again I've had first meetings that most certainly ended up being the first date.