Does OLD ever end? If so, when?
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| Thu, 01-27-2005 - 4:31pm |
And I know that title sounds confusing, but here's my question. If I'm out with someone, and I'm sort of "into" that person..... then I don't hear from him again, I'll start to want to surf the OLD sites looking for someone else (better? not sure)..... I guess I can safely assume that the other person is doing the same, correct?
Does one ever truly STOP looking then? And just go with the one person? I am sure that this does happen, as ya hear stories all the time of so-and-so marrying someone from OLD. But, when does it stop? After like 6 months of dating? BUT during those 6 months, is it very common for the OLD couple to also be constantly checking, just to see if s/he is missing out on a potential new "listing"!?
UGH! Is this making *any* sense!?!?!?
Jayme

yes it ends.
keep on dating/keeping options open like you would in real life. meaning you keep surfing people, talking ot others... but if you aren't the type to date more than one person and do one at a time, then do thsi w/ online dating.
think of online dating as a medium to meet people and thats it. I think that is how OLD works the best.
but the differences in OLD vs real life dating, are the profiles/activity/etc.... Those factors change the dynamics... and the fact you've got 100s of people you could possibly date... whereas in real life you tend to have less options (exactly why you chose to go to OLD)
I think when both people find what they are looking for and realize it, then thats when you stop looking/being active
Sure it makes sense - you're new to this, so it's natural that you're going to have some questions, and that's why we're here.
It stops when you both expressly agree to date exclusively (and I always include a discussion of taking down profiles when I have the exclusive talk).
I am not comfortable sleeping with someone who hasn't agreed to date exclusively, so I have that talk before we sleep together. That generally happens after we've been dating for about 6 weeks (counted from the time we met in person, not when we first started emailing), but I've made a commitment to myself to push that to 2 months from now on.
Sheri