online dating success/horror stories

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Registered: 01-20-2005
online dating success/horror stories
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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 11:33am

I met this guy on the net about a month ago, since then we've been emailing and talking on the phone ever since. Yesterday, he asked me to come n see him next weekend. He told me that he would come n see me but can't get away from work.

So my question is would you go n see him-why or why not?

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 12:53pm

No. No. Umm No. BTW-in case you didn't get it, NO! Absolutely never go see the guy. If he likes you and wants to meet you, he will come and see you. And don't meet him privately. Have a friend, or meet in a public place. Try to Google his name. Give his name and phone number to a trusted family member or friend.

So let me reiterate...you going to see him..NO!

JMHO.

Jodie

PS. No!

 

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 1:02pm
Don't you read the newspapers?
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Registered: 10-27-2003
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 1:13pm
What Jodie and Lg said.
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 1:35pm

Well... here's the thing. How is it that he has time for you to come and see him, but not time for him to come to see you? Is it that far between you, and he's so busy he's only got a few hours to spare?

As a general rule, you want to try and meet earlier in an OLD relationship, not later. Otherwise you email back and forth and back and forth, and maybe phone call, and you think that you're getting to know someone... but you're really not, because it's mostly just an idea in your head.

Typically, it's the guys who go after the girls, too. Personally, I think it'd be neat if a girl were into me enough that she wanted to come to see me instead of the other way around, but as a general rule if a guy is into you, he'll be willing to come to you.

I'd suggest that if it's been a month and he hasn't been able to make a couple of hours to see you, even for lunch or coffee, he's not as into you as you think he is. He'll take some free nooky if it self-delivers, but he's not willing to go out and get it.

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 9:18pm
I didn't quite get your point, true?
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Registered: 10-26-2004
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 9:33pm

Hi,

And a little more "C.S.I." you can do on your computer, and I say this is to be safe, Not being snoopy!

Go on to your country appraisal district and put in his name as directed, you will see all the 4-1-1 about his property, home, and Owners--ie, is there a wife and she is Out of town this weekend? Plus, if you are in a large city, you can go to the County Records site and get info on lawsuits and marriage and divorces, as well. For the Othello who so "kindly" dumped me after 2 1/2 months, saying he just did not want to be 'serious" right now (translation: narrow his options for sex!), he said he had been 'alone' for 12 years since his divorce. Lo and behold--he was issued a marriage license with a woman 4 years ago, and I saw NO divorce filed, tho it may have been, in another county? Still, he LIED!!!!!

Uh uh uh...don't Play a Playah!

Agree that you should meet VERY publicly the first few times! Be safe First!

Truly,
Cupcake