I think I used to know him

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Registered: 11-18-2003
I think I used to know him
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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 4:58pm

I came across a profile online and I'm not sure...but I think I used to go to school with this guy - both high school and elementary/middle school. Under other circumstances I probably wouldn't contact him. His profile sounds very good except.....he references sex more than once.


This guy and I weren't exactly friends but we did have a few classes together and for a short time we did belong to the same social circle - meaning that even though he and I weren't exactly close, we did have mutual friends.


The only other issue is that I'm not a paying member; therefore I can't write an introductory email explaining why I'm contacting him. . The best I could do at this point is wink.


My question is....has this ever happened to you? Have you

 

 

 

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 7:36pm
former employees and yesterday ran right smack into someone who I recognized from Match while I was picking up my kids at Daycare3.
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 7:39pm

But did you ever see anyone on match and recognize her as someone you once knew in real life?

 

 

 

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 8:22pm

Yes. One person used to work for me. Two people were clients. Nobody that I recognized from school though. I'm pretty sure a buch of people that know my ex from her work because when I mentioned where she works the communication stopped.

I don't think I would approach anyone that I knew IRL that I saw online. It would be too awkward.

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 2:19am

>>has this ever happened to you? Have you ever encountered someone from your past - someone you wouldn't consider as a potential match but someone with whom you wouldn't mind reconnecting?<<

Yes, it happened to me once. There was a gal I wrote to who actually recognized me- I didn't really remember her, because she was a few years younger than me.

And man, I would have really loved to "connect" with her, if you know what I mean, because she was like supermodel-incredible-hot. Smoking. I mean, holy cow.

We went out on a few dates and while we got along okay, it was obvious (even to me, when I wasn't thinking about the incredibly nasty/naughty things I wanted to do with her) that we were just not a match.

Ironically, we would probably be a decent match NOW (this is a few years later) but of course the odds are she's married and some other dork is doing those nasty/naughty things to her. LOL

The only problem that I see with reconnecting with someone from the past is a pretty simple and obvious one- the person that we once knew is almost certainly different than the person they are now. (And the same goes for us, of course.)

For example, I was madly, passionately, completely unrequited-head-over-heels-in-love with a girl in high school.

We were close friends but never dated. If she came into my life now, 15-odd years later, I can't be sure we'd be able to connect, because I have had a lot of things happen in my life and I'm sure she has too. We are different than we used to be.

As for your guy, jh, I say go for it. Yeah, maybe he's got sex on the brain, but that doesn't make him a bad person. :) If it doesn't work, you're just where you were before you tried.

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 5:38am
I got an email via an OLd site from a girl I worked with in college. We met up soon after that, just on a friends level (definitely not a romantic match between us), so that was cool, as I hadn't seen her since college.
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Registered: 06-16-2003
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 7:37am

I contacted a guy I went to college with (don't think it was you, under!) and we went out once. While we really connected, he made it clear he was into dating around, not looking for a relationship, and I told him that wasn't for me. He lives in my town and I run into him now and then.

I have seen several former co-workers on different sites but wouldn't dream of mentioning it to them.

Other than that, JH, is it just the sex references that make you think he's not a match for you?

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 12:27pm

JH...


From one CL to another....would you feel uncomfortable "winking" at this gentleman?